Be More Specific About Pain - When a Tool is More Than Sting or Thud

Why did we get stuck on sting and thud as the only two possibilities to describe what we like in pain play anyway? I don’t think we’ve expanded the types of play activities that much in recent years to not know of other sensations than stingy and thuddy to describe them.

Coming Clean: Admitting Your Disobedience

We all have those little voices in our head that tell us what to do. Sometimes it tries to convince us that our disobedience is okay. The voices are very convincing at times and then we have guilt riding with us until we come clean.

Honest Communication or Bust

"Full transparency" isn't just something we bat around on BDSM forums. And it's not necessarily something exclusive to the master/slave or owner/property dynamics. It's actually sort of important in any relationship, regardless of dynamic, or lack thereof. It is the key to "making it work". And it's best to start in the beginning.

I didn't start until what was almost the end. I wasted the first six years of our relationship telling him what I thought he wanted to hear. I thought it was my duty. My responsibility as property.

My Toys Or Yours? Building Your Own Toybag On a Budget

Just because I am a bottom does not mean that I should not have a variety of toys that I own. The more the idea came to fruition, the more I became convinced that I should not be without a decent toy bag, just because I was without a steady partner.

The Importance of Taking Your Time Exploring Submission Before Starting a Relationship

At one time or another we all tend to rashly jump into a D/s relationship without really knowing the Dominant that we are surrendering to.

Submissive Advent - Day 17: A Moment of Gratitude

Showing gratitude is a wonderful way to express to someone that you care for them, who they are and what they have given to you personally or to the community.

Why Might I Get Sick Suddenly During Play?

Question is can you explain why she might throw up like that and what was going on for her - she is fine the next day and wanting to do it again -

30 Days of Submission: Day 23 - Questioning my Submission

Is there anything about submission (yours or what you see in others) that you question, dislike or repels you?

M/s and When Life Happens: Dealing With Health Challenges and Death

Illness and grief don't have to be an experience that leaves the soul crushed and defeated, helping others hold on to the silver lining and lean into the light at the end of the tunnel no matter how bleak circumstances may seem.

[Infographic] Bondage for Beginners

A lovely infographic (huge image with knowledge) for Bondage Beginners.