Honest Communication or Bust

"Full transparency" isn't just something we bat around on BDSM forums. And it's not necessarily something exclusive to the master/slave or owner/property dynamics. It's actually sort of important in any relationship, regardless of dynamic, or lack thereof. It is the key to "making it work". And it's best to start in the beginning.

I didn't start until what was almost the end. I wasted the first six years of our relationship telling him what I thought he wanted to hear. I thought it was my duty. My responsibility as property.

The Top 7 Posts of 2012 on Submissive Guide

I'd like to showcase several of these posts from the last year of Submissive Guide.

Find a Munch at FindaMunch.com!

Are you looking for kink friends and fun close to you? Have you heard about munches, but don't know what they are, much less where to look? Are you traveling or relocating and not sure about the community at your destination? Or, are you already involved, and you want your local organization to grow?

7 Myths of Grieving and Understanding Your Responses to Death

I would like to talk about ground rules for grieving, myths of grief and loss, the uniqueness of each person’s grief and symptoms of grief.

A Submissive's New Year's Resolutions: Letting Go and Offering Forgiveness

Letting go is not an easy thing to do. Offering forgiveness is even harder.

How to Keep Yourself From Being Overwhelmed in a Service Dynamic

Service in a power exchange dynamic can be a very intense and involved experience, especially when you’re in a 24/7 dynamic and “always on.”

Entering the Community: The Different Ways to Socialize with Local Kinksters

Play parties aren't the only way to meet and socialize with other kinky people. Take a look at the shortlist of other ways you can meet up and make friends!

How Often Have You Said: "I Don't Know What's Expected of Me, But I'd Like To"?

Let me tell you what you can do to make sure you are better informed before you enter a relationship and shortly after you've found a Dominant to submit to so your question of what is expected of you can be answered as fully as possible.

Simply Service eZine: May 2008

D/s e-Zine focused on Service, written by bootpig. This is the archive from May 2008. Topics include Productivity Tools, Is Slavery Real?, Rules of Bedding and more! Available in PDF format for free download.

Finding Your Dominant: Dating when BDSM is Something You Need

Some great tips for getting started searching for a compatible partner when BDSM is a need in your life.