Communicating While Submissive

Doms keep telling us that they’re not mind-readers, so we have to communicate. But it’s hard! Especially when it’s something they might not want to hear.

Why SSC and RACK Are Both Important Safety Acronyms to Know

The mantra “Safe, Sane, Consensual” (SSC) is probably one of the first things that someone new to the scene learns. RACK stands for two principles designed to give you the opportunity to move outside of your current comfort zones, into a place of interest.

Sluts: Debunking Another BDSM Myth

BDSM offers a key to unlock the slutty soul. Our sluts are people who mature to a level of sexual freedom with dignity and ethics. Sexual feelings find expression instead of suppression. The body, mind and soul find comfort in sexual intimacy that flows to and from their partners.To be called a slut is often compliment in the BDSM world.

How a Personal Protocol Can Aide Your Service

The first time I heard the word protocol when introduced to BDSM it was some special ritualized order of things that can happen in a relationship. It was an unspoken word when I was single. You didn't learn about protocol and no one I knew used a protocol to govern their own development and personal growth.

I'd like to change that. A personal protocol can bring you ahead of the game, no matter where you are in your submissive journey. In this article I'd like to give you a working definition of a personal protocol, how you can develop one whether you are single or in a relationship and what it can do for you.

False Submission: Insta-Subs Online

Whether it be by using a title "Sir" for them without asking, are abeyant to them by agreeing to everything they say and otherwise going above and beyond common respect. It's like they are sucking up to every Dominant to attract attention. I call this insta-sub.

What To Do In a Bad Break-up Situation

If you have ever Googled "break up gracefully" you will be bombarded with information from sources saying there is a graceful way to break up, but I highly doubt any break up is really graceful.

How can I teach my boyfriend about kink without affecting the dynamic?

How do I educate my vanilla boyfriend without affecting the power balance or offending him?

Cyber Realities: Online and Long Distance Relationship Thoughts

Mistress Steel's thoughts on cyber submission and kink.

When Needs Change: How Communication Worked When My Partner Didn't Want to Be Dominant Anymore

Through open communication and the ability to listen to one another, we were able to come to a conclusion that met both of our needs.