Being bad will garner negative consequences while being a brat with someone who wants a brat can often lead to fun play, bantering and a closer connection with their Dominant. Let's explore the other differences.
Watch The Video | Find SimilarNot long after my first step into the real world of BDSM I learned of a phrase that to this day has no real definition that I can pin to it. That phrase is “speaking submissively.” To me, there is no way to speak submissively that isn’t also speaking respectfully and with deference. Many other people speak the same way in situations that call for it, like in front of a judge or to the president for instance.But I still get questions about how a submissive is supposed to say x, y and z so I thought that I’d do my best to convey what I think would work in a variety of circumstances so that if the occasion arises that you need to “speak submissively” you’ll have something you can say.
Read The Series | Find SimilarIn this video series, I define terms that readers have asked me about! This one is the comparison of funishment and punishment. Do you have a term you'd like defined? Let me know.
Watch The Video | Find SimilarSo how would they know when the humiliation is damaging you? Is it possible to use humiliation as a punishment without damaging a sub's self-esteem or is it best reserved strictly for play alone & nothing more?
Read The Article | Find SimilarFor many of us, coming out and saying we want play feels like we are topping from the bottom, stepping out of our submissive boundaries and doing something that isn't in our character. But I'm here to tell you that it isn't.
Read The Article | Find SimilarWe’re both so new at this, we’re just trying to figure things out as we go along and sometimes I feel like he’s just doing it for me. Any help?
Read The Article | Find SimilarWhen a Dominant tells you that you need training, what does he really mean?
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Read The Article | Find SimilarBecoming submissive does not mean you stop being who you are now. All of my advice has always been that you should be you, just a better you.
Read The Article | Find SimilarThe proper apology is an art, it really is. Take it upon yourself to correct your Dominant’s displeasure with an apology.
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