Butt Plugs for Training and Pleasure

I'm going to share the secrets of my success with wearing anal toys for long periods of time--by which I mean anywhere from an hour or two to overnight.

How a Submissive Can Have Two Dominants and Make It Work (Hint: It Takes Communication)

Having 2 dominants has worked out very smoothly for the three of us actually.

How To Help Your Dominant Recover From Play

It is very important to make sure that the Dominant recovers from the session in whatever way that is best for them. We know what usually helps a submissive recover; a fuzzy blanket, attention, sleep, care for wounds, etc. But what about a Dominant? What do they need?

Some Thoughts on Domestic Service from a Male Submissive

When luna indicated that she was going to emphasize domestic service at the Sub Guide this month, it reminded me that when I tell people I am primarily a service submissive I am frequently asked: “What is that?”. The follow-up question is often, “What do you get out of that?” It seemed an opportune time to tackle these questions. (Sometimes the follow-up question is “What are you secondarily, then?” To which I always reply, “Whatever She needs me to be, of course.”)

So what is a service submissive? Simply put, it’s a sub (male or female) that takes care of household chores and similar tasks. Cooking, cleaning and other domestic duties might be performed by a service submissive. We essentially take the role of butler, maid, chauffeur, gardener or cook.

How To Tell A Dominant That You Are Not Interested In Them

Okay so some of you are thinking, why would you bother with courtesies when the messages you received didn't have any? I'm going to tell you that you need to be the better person. You need to treat them as you wish to be treated even if they don't reciprocate. Let me be clear. I'm hoping you'll learn to be a positive influence in your own life and have as few regrets as possible. Treating someone poorly when a little sugar does the same thing is not a very decent thing to do and not something a prospective or current partner would want.

How to Ask for Play and Why It's So Hard For Submissives To Do

For many of us, coming out and saying we want play feels like we are topping from the bottom, stepping out of our submissive boundaries and doing something that isn't in our character. But I'm here to tell you that it isn't.

Power Exchange While in Addiction Recovery

The holiday season is hard. So hard sometimes.

31 Days of Submissive Journaling - Day 31: Q&A, Resources and Further Reading

Frequent questions and some further resources to up your submissive journaling. This is the end of the 31 Days to Submissive Journaling Series.

New to D/s Relationships? Here's Your Foolproof Guide to Starting Out - Part 1

What makes a D/s relationship so different from mainstream relationships? Learn the key differences, how you can apply what you learn to your own relationships and watch it develop into your most fulfilling relationship possible.