Reactive and Proactive Service: What's the Difference?

There is no right or wrong way to serve. I do think some slaves are more prone to reactive service and there are some slaves who are more proactive.

Limits: Drawing That Line In The Sand

Applying limits to your BDSM experience is necessary for negotiation purposes in play and in relationships. It's like a compatibility scale. The more items on the limit list that match the more likely you are to be compatible and have fun playing in the same way. Being a novice isn't a hindrance for everyone, some Dominants like to help a novice explore their limits.

How a Personal Protocol Can Aide Your Service

The first time I heard the word protocol when introduced to BDSM it was some special ritualized order of things that can happen in a relationship. It was an unspoken word when I was single. You didn't learn about protocol and no one I knew used a protocol to govern their own development and personal growth.

I'd like to change that. A personal protocol can bring you ahead of the game, no matter where you are in your submissive journey. In this article I'd like to give you a working definition of a personal protocol, how you can develop one whether you are single or in a relationship and what it can do for you.

The Top 7 Posts of 2012 on Submissive Guide

I'd like to showcase several of these posts from the last year of Submissive Guide.

How to Turn Your Submissive Experience Into Education for Your Dominant

Ways that a submissive can teach without worrying about "being Dominant" in order for the education to happen and also ways that a submissive could take on education and share that knowledge with their Dominant as a part of their service.

I Am Submissive--Hear Me Roar!

Until I discovered my submissive self, I always found myself deferring to others as much as possible to avoid conflict. Suddenly I started standing taller, with my shoulders back and my head up.

Empowerment, Not Exploitation: Women Activists are Wrong About the Kink Community

I am a submissive. I have never felt exploited in any way. In fact, I feel empowered. I feel empowered in a way I have never felt before.

How to Navigate D/s with Family Around

Perhaps one of the most challenging decisions we face as a parent is what we should tell our children, when and how much.

BDSM and Kids: Getting Kinky With Kids Around

Over the past few years, Kayla found certain things help her feel submissive, enjoy kinky sex, and even have BDSM scenes as a parent. Here's some tips for your own playtime.

Lessons in Submissive Speech 12: Don't Use That Tone With Me

Everyone could learn to be a bit more appropriate from time to time. Here are a few tips that might help you be heard in the right perspective that you intended.