Discipline or Punishment - Which is it?

Exploring differences in discipline and punishment, Mistress Steel provides some basic definitions to help you decide which purpose you’re going for in your situation.

Honest Communication or Bust

"Full transparency" isn't just something we bat around on BDSM forums. And it's not necessarily something exclusive to the master/slave or owner/property dynamics. It's actually sort of important in any relationship, regardless of dynamic, or lack thereof. It is the key to "making it work". And it's best to start in the beginning.

I didn't start until what was almost the end. I wasted the first six years of our relationship telling him what I thought he wanted to hear. I thought it was my duty. My responsibility as property.

My Struggle with Accepting Domestic Service as Service

What makes what I do service? It's all in the attitude really. Sure I could trudge around scrubbing and cleaning with a frown on my face, looking like I had been made to do this or that and not happy at all. Or I could find the peace in it.

Solo Coaching - Re-write Negative Thinking

It is within your power to change your beliefs. As soon as a negative thought shows itself it is your job to find evidence to disprove it. It will really help if you write this evidence down.

How Do I Know What I Like? I'm Brand New

We more experienced people do have a habit of looking at new people funny when they don't know what they are into. I think we forget that we were there once, that we floundered and stuttered when asked if we liked bondage or spanking, or if we were a Dominant or submissive. So, hopefully, we'll learn from this little article too - that we were there once.

The Role of a Collar in a Long Distance D/s Relationship

Wearing a collar is not just a way to signify to myself and others that I have given myself to another person, it’s a way to comfort myself when I’m feeling alone and to reassure myself on the days when I don’t feel actively submissive.

How Do I Let Him Know I'm Committed to Him?

How can I tell my partner that I'm not going anywhere and am interested in a long term relationship and possibly marriage?

Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 4 of 7) - Play Parties

In part 4 of Ambrosio's series on Protocol and Etiquette, it's play parties! Come read a set of sample party rules and three different types of parties you may encounter in your local BDSM community.