Anal Play: Beginner to Stretch in No Time

Rayne gives some excellent tips for those of you just starting out with anal play. Take her personal journey to the heart and keep the lube bottle nearby. Butt play can be so erotic and fun. Lift the veil and the fear to give it a try!

Honest Communication or Bust

"Full transparency" isn't just something we bat around on BDSM forums. And it's not necessarily something exclusive to the master/slave or owner/property dynamics. It's actually sort of important in any relationship, regardless of dynamic, or lack thereof. It is the key to "making it work". And it's best to start in the beginning.

I didn't start until what was almost the end. I wasted the first six years of our relationship telling him what I thought he wanted to hear. I thought it was my duty. My responsibility as property.

Kink and Mental Health: Can “sub drop” be a trigger?

With regard to the question of whether or not sub drop could trigger a depressive episode (for lack of a better description), my honest answer has to be, I don't know. In this wide world, where things are constantly changing, and everyone's just a little bit different than everyone else, it would be impossible for me to say for sure how anyone I haven't dealt with for a decent amount of time will react to any circumstance.

Kink and Mental Health: Real Emotion v. Mental Illness

Sometimes those around me can't tell the difference between my mental illness and an actual emotional problem. I do my best to reassure those around me that it's really not them, it's me. And I'm not always successful. And they often do more reassuring than I do. But without knowing the underlying cause, and figuring out how to avoid it, I'm kinda stuck. So that's something I'm working on.

Kink and Mental Health: Temporary Relief

I won't pretend kink's a magic cure-all, and I sure as hell won't suggest it's a cure for OCD, but it does help mine when it comes to M.

Kink and Mental Health: The Background

There's a lot of debate, in our kinky little corner of the worldwide web, about kinky people who have mental health issues. What kinds of problems they cause, how to keep them from destroying the mood in kinky venues, whether or not D/s can help a person with mental disorders, whether or not they should be involved in kink or dominant/submissive relationships... The thoughts and opinions, as with just about every topic of discussion, are all over the place.

Kink and Mental Health: The Ethics and Legality of Consent

One thing I've noticed, with regard to BDSM cases in the media, is that regardless whether or not the law allows for consent, it's usually the first question the media asks. Did the submissive consent to whatever gave the police cause to arrest and charge the dominant? Followed by the question of whether or not the submissive revoked said consent by use of safe word or some other agreed upon protocol.

No Limits Slavery: What Are Ya Gonna Do When He Wants to Chop Your Finger Off?

There are a great many scenarios most would not consider safe and sane kink that I would gladly engage in. There are some that I will slam on the breaks for all I'm worth, and hope like hell M will snap out of it and realize he just took a break from reality for a second. Mostly things that will hinder my ability to serve him, like dismemberment, or death. But in case of emergency, I have the right, if not responsibility, to assess him as "absolutely off his rocker" and point out how unrealistic he's being... within reason.

No Stupid (Sex Toy) Questions: Butt Stretching

So I kinda would like to explore bigger toys in my butt, but you hear all these myths. Like, if you go too big you'll make your butthole so loose you become incontinent and other gross stuff. Is this true?

No Stupid (Sex Toy) Questions: Should my vagina be burning?!

It set my vulva and vagina on fire. And not in a good way. What's up with that? Is my vagina defective?