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How can I regulate my anxiety, so I don’t burden my Dominant?

Question: As someone with anxiety, what are some good ways I can try to emotionally regulate myself when having strong feelings, so I don’t have to burden my Dominant with them all the time? Answer: According to the Anxiety and Depression Association of America (ADAA), over 40 million people have anxiety in the US. That’s […]

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Is it possible to list the different types of kinks to help the newer ones navigate?

Question: Is it possible to list the different types of kinks to help the newer ones navigate? Answer: One of the best ways to get a list of kinks is to look for a BDSM checklist. Some of them are dozens of pages long and will list practically every common and some very uncommon kinks

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Is it wrong to call a safe word in a punishment I wanted in the first place?

Question: Is it wrong to call a safe word in a punishment I wanted in the first place? Answer:  It depends on a lot of factors. First, are we talking about Punishment for a mistake or Funishment for playtime? These two terms get confused a lot, and they can have different interpretations. Once that’s clarified,

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Am I too late to join the BDSM community and find a Dom as I am in my sixties and overweight?

Question: Am I too late to join the BDSM community and find a Dom as I am in my sixties and overweight? Answer: It’s never too late to embrace your sexuality or explore what interests you. People discover BDSM later in life a lot more than we admit.  You can’t age out of BDSM. I’ve

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Is it appropriate to expect your Dom to tell you if they’ve been intimate with someone else?

Question: Is it appropriate to have an expectation from your Dom that they will tell you if they’ve been intimate with someone else? Answer: The short answer: yes. Absolutely, 100% yes. A relationship, especially a D/s one is built on trust, communication, and honesty. You should not only expect them to tell you when they

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Teased With No Relief: How to Address Orgasm Denial Because Dominant Gets Too Busy and Forgets

Dear SG, My Dominant has a habit of teasing me without any following ‘relief’. He will get my motor running and then leave me all riled up. He gets busy with something else. Sometimes this teasing can go on for weeks, even months because of his busy lifestyle. How can I cope with the frustration?!

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