Question: How can I get my dom to stop buying me butt plugs? I know he loves me wearing them, but I already have close to 20 different ones. I’m not sure what to say as I feel that accepting them is part of the deal. He also buys me practical items for the home, but butt plugs seem to be his idea of a romantic present.
Answer:
That can be a lot of butt plugs unless you have a kink that requires getting different sizes all the time (blushes). I can understand why you might be perplexed by his desire to buy more and gift them to you, the only solution to your dilemma is to talk to him about it.
I can only guess at his intentions but just like some people love lingerie or shoes, they often want to see their partner in a variety of them and will gift their partner those items so that they can enjoy the visual show. Maybe he has a desire to see you use different plugs. If it were lingerie or tights and hosiery would this be a similar issue for you?
Or perhaps he wants to train you to wear them on a regular basis and feels that a variety would be fun to have on hand? Again, you won’t know unless you ask him.
Since this seems to be a conflict for you, you will want to have a talk with him about how you feel about it. If you’d like to suggest other gift ideas, this would be the same time to have that conversation. Sometimes, it’s a simple matter of giving your partner options that can diversify the gifts you are receiving.
But, depending on why he likes to get your butt plugs, you may just have to learn to accept them as a permanent part of your dynamic. If he tells you that they are something he wants to continue getting, how can you reframe your thinking so that your growing butt plug collection is a positive thing for you?
