Question: How would you express changes in your feelings over poly to your Master, when the second sub he is considering you do not like her, without losing your relationship with him?
Answer:
When we’re in a power exchange relationship, especially a poly one, expressing hard feelings can feel like walking a tightrope.
What if we sound jealous? What if we upset them? What if we say the wrong thing and ruin everything?
Here’s the truth: submission doesn’t mean silence. You can speak honestly and remain deeply submissive.
Start by getting clear on what you’re feeling:
- What exactly is bothering you about this person?
- Is it about her specifically, or how her presence might affect your role?
- Are you experiencing fears of being replaced, unseen, or disconnected?
You don’t have to “approve” of everyone your partner is drawn to. You’re allowed to have reactions. What matters is how you express them.
Try this:
“Master, I’ve been feeling some discomfort around this new person and I’d like to talk to you about it. I’m committed to our dynamic and I want to be honest about what’s coming up for me, even though it’s vulnerable.”
Speak from your own experience. Keep it respectful.
You’re not trying to control who they see — you’re sharing how you’re being impacted so you can move forward together.
If they value you and your submission, they’ll want to hear your truth — even if they don’t agree or change course.
- You’re not being difficult.
- You’re not failing at poly.
- You’re being honest — and that’s a powerful kind of service.
