Full Question: Can a little be a slave? How would this dynamic look different from a “normal” m/s dynamic? How would it look the same?
Answer:
Yes! This answer is for any submissive role, so if you aren’t a little or a slave you will hopefully learn a bit more about roles in BDSM.
Roles are fluid and not exclusive. What that means is that you can identify with any roles that you feel suit you best at any time in your journey. If you feel you no longer identify with one, but more another, just select a different role. You can be more than one role at a time, just like you can be a spouse, parent, coworker, friend, and sibling all at the same time.
The challenge everyone has with roles and identities in BDSM is that they are open to interpretation by the people using them. While dictionary definitions are nice, they are simply a starting point from which to apply a personal definition to. That’s why no two Dominants are alike, no two submissives are alike, and yet they have used the same role names.
How a power exchange dynamic looks is also going to be subjective and will be unique to the people in that dynamic. I also don’t like to use the word “normal” when describing anything to do with BDSM because the only normal that exists is the life you choose to live. If it makes you happy, then that’s normal. There’s going to be some level of power exchange. What that looks like is up to the people involved. What activities, rules, behaviors, and attitudes will all depend on what the people involved negotiate and agree to.
That said, an M/s dynamic with elements of caregiver/little is going to look a bit different than one where no elements of caregiver/little exist. It’s going to have moments where the slave is a little and the Master is a caregiver. That doesn’t make you any less their slave, it’s just another facet of who you are with each other.
How would it look the same? The power exchange would be the same. One person leads and the other follows. One person is in control and the other obeys. How that works is completely up to each dynamic’s needs.
