Managing Depression as a Submissive and How Your Dominant Can Help

Everyone has gone through bouts of depression at one time or another. For some, it's practically debilitating and others can handle it in stride without much of a bat of the eyelashes. I recently recovered from a long time depression with the help of medications and my Dominant's caring. It's never an easy process, but being reminded that your submission is still desired can help.

2 Weeks to Better Submissive Positions - Day 7: Serving Food and Drink With Grace

Today I have a collection of tips, tricks and resources for serving a full meal to your Dominant with style and grace.

Some Thoughts on Domestic Service from a Male Submissive

When luna indicated that she was going to emphasize domestic service at the Sub Guide this month, it reminded me that when I tell people I am primarily a service submissive I am frequently asked: “What is that?”. The follow-up question is often, “What do you get out of that?” It seemed an opportune time to tackle these questions. (Sometimes the follow-up question is “What are you secondarily, then?” To which I always reply, “Whatever She needs me to be, of course.”)

So what is a service submissive? Simply put, it’s a sub (male or female) that takes care of household chores and similar tasks. Cooking, cleaning and other domestic duties might be performed by a service submissive. We essentially take the role of butler, maid, chauffeur, gardener or cook.

Let’s Party! Finding Local Play Parties

Parties are a ‘rite of passage’ for some in the BDSM community. How do you find one? What can you expect? And most importantly (for me) what on earth can you wear?

Submission is Not All Sunshine and Puppies: The Realities of Submission

If you've had a difficult time, or are struggling, I welcome you to write about it for Submissive Guide. Share with us your difficulties; we'll understand and be there for you.

What's In a Name? Selecting a Scene Name You Can Live With

Choosing a scene name is one thing if it is only ever going to be used online, but it takes a bit more thinking about if you are going to refer to yourself as it in real life as well or use it as an introduction point at a munch or something like 'I'm ********* on FetLife'

How To Manage, Increase and Explore Pain Tolerances in SM Play

Whether you are a hard-core masochist or just a light explorer of sadomasochistic pain play there are always opportunies to experience more, push yourself harder and enhance your pain management techniques. How you learn to do this, and the techniques you employ are unique from submissive to submissive (masochist to masochist) - however there are some basic principles and techniques that will get you well on your way.

Everything That's Wrong with Your BDSM Limits List - And How To Fix It

Most of us have problems with really making the limit list a full picture of what your boundaries are and tend to stick with play activities.

31 Days of Submissive Journaling - Day 9: My Top 7 Recommendations for Notebooks

Deciding on the type of physical notebook you want to use for your journal can be a tough task! There are so many options to choose from. Here is my list of the top 7 notebooks for all your journaling needs.

31 Days of Submissive Journaling - Day 17: Two Key Items Every Blog Should Have

Every blog needs an About Page and a way to categorize posts. Come learn what each of these things add to your blog and how to add them today!