Would you normally hesitate to schedule in time or appointments with just about every person in your life? Well now is the time to change that up a bit. Pull out your schedule right now and plan your first few solo coaching meetings with yourself. That's right - just you. We are going to work on developing quality time for the most important person in your life, you. Once it's written in your schedule it gives it greater importance. What's more important than working on your life?
The goal is really simple; you'll carve out time to meet with yourself on a regular basis. It doesn't have to be daily, weekly is fine. Work out in your day when the best time is for your meetings. You should be wide awake and have alone time - no interruptions. Right, when I wake up works best for me (7-8am) but if you can carve out 10 minutes during your lunch break, or while you are still in bed (provided you are alone) then it works.
It's a good idea to have these sessions at the same time each week. You get to decide how long these sessions are, but 10 minutes should be a minimum. Make the commitment to spend 10 minutes with yourself every week. You may also find that having a trigger will help you remember to do this. Set an alarm, send yourself a text message or have a pop-up reminder on your computer. Even the smell of coffee in the morning could be your trigger to start your solo coaching. You may need to change your triggers every couple of months when they become less effective.
I've said before how important it is to have a journal for writing your thoughts in. If you haven't got one yet, you may want one before you start this exercise.
What To Do In The Meeting
Now that you are there for yourself it's time for quality reflection, right? Well, not quite. At least not at first. We all have things we'd like to improve in our lives. There are branches of everyone's life that seem out of control, or off-balance or just needs a pick me up. This is the time in your day that you are going to start working on those things so that you can make the most of your life, your submission and your relationship (future or current). The goal here is to quiet your mind and listen for the really good ideas that come to you, the inner wisdom that we don't normally hear over the babble that fills our minds every waking moment. You will be able to hear that wisdom better as you go along in your solo sessions.
After your 10 minutes are up, ask yourself the following question, "what one thought came out of the time that you find useful?" Write it down.
Try It Now
For the next 10 minutes just sit quietly and listen to the thoughts coming and going in your mind. Write it down. I would love to know in the comments what thought came to you that you want to act on.