Safewords Don't Automatically Mean You're Safe

There are lots of reasons and issues which propelled the existence of the Safe Word in the BDSM community. Many were quite valid and useful to distinguish the community from its ugly cousin ‘physical abuse’. The issue of consent being the bottomline.

Some Thoughts on Domestic Service from a Male Submissive

When luna indicated that she was going to emphasize domestic service at the Sub Guide this month, it reminded me that when I tell people I am primarily a service submissive I am frequently asked: “What is that?”. The follow-up question is often, “What do you get out of that?” It seemed an opportune time to tackle these questions. (Sometimes the follow-up question is “What are you secondarily, then?” To which I always reply, “Whatever She needs me to be, of course.”)

So what is a service submissive? Simply put, it’s a sub (male or female) that takes care of household chores and similar tasks. Cooking, cleaning and other domestic duties might be performed by a service submissive. We essentially take the role of butler, maid, chauffeur, gardener or cook.

Keeping D/s Alive Through Engagement and Marriage

I feel bad that sometimes lately I have forgotten I am marrying my Master and not just the man I love. There have been things we have been doing however to keep the D/s active.

Making the Transition from Online to Face-to-Face Submission When Struggling with Agoraphobia

The most important factor was having found that right Dominant who understood. This wasn’t and hasn’t been an easy transition.

My Dominant Breaks Down When Punishing Me

Every time he punishes me (even if I take it like the good pet I am) he’ll start crying midway through no matter how angry he was. I don’t know what to do?!

How S&M Saved My Life

S&M became an almost therapeutic aspect of our relationship.

5 Ways Rituals Enhance Your Relationship with Yourself and Your Dynamic

Every relationship can be enhanced by ritual and also every person in the exchange can get something from ritual. It's not hard to get started either.

In a New Relationship and Self Conscious About My Body

Here are a few tips for moving from sweating over this prospect to looking forward to sharing your body with a new partner.