Orgasm on Command Training - The Process for the Submissive

When you enter a training program as intensive as orgasm training you can get overwhelmed easily. There is a lot of weight on the submissive to perform and succeed.

How a Personal Protocol Can Aide Your Service

The first time I heard the word protocol when introduced to BDSM it was some special ritualized order of things that can happen in a relationship. It was an unspoken word when I was single. You didn't learn about protocol and no one I knew used a protocol to govern their own development and personal growth.

I'd like to change that. A personal protocol can bring you ahead of the game, no matter where you are in your submissive journey. In this article I'd like to give you a working definition of a personal protocol, how you can develop one whether you are single or in a relationship and what it can do for you.

The Question of Aftercare: What is It, Do You Need It and How to Ask For It (And Get It)

Aftercare is an elusive beast. Sometimes I need it and sometimes I'd rather be left alone. I'm never very sure which mood I'll be in when we begin playing but aftercare is always on standby because I take what happens in scene very hard. It goes with my very emotional self.

What Is A Doormat Submissive?

A common derogatory word used in submissive circles is “doormat” as in, you don’t want to be a doormat submissive. Rarely is it talked about beyond saying that you should not let your Dominant walk all over you. I agree of course, but for the inexperienced, understanding what that really means can come after being trampled into the mat.

Note To Self: Selfish Pride Comes Before A Fall

Pride is a slippery emotion that I believe many a slave deal with, even if we don’t recognize it

Release from the Collar: A Journey

I’ve read a lot about what it’s like to be a submissive without a Dominant. I never really thought I’d find myself here, but here I am.

Some Misconceptions about the Caregiver/Little Dynamic

Debunking some misconceptions of the Caregiver dynamic.

Patience - Submissive Meditation Monday

Patience plays an important role in the life of a submissive. Spend some time with me today to reflect on patience.

31 Days To Better Domestic Service: Pre-Planning For Quick and Easy, Last Minute and "I Don't Know What To Cook" Days

Here's a list of easy to assemble, last-minute meals from things you might already have in your pantry!

31 Days of Submissive Journaling: Day 27- Brain Dump: Shaking Off Toxic Emotions

Submissive Journaling isn't all neat and orderly, it can be a huge mess of emotions that you just have to get off your chest right that instant. And that's where a brain dump comes in.