Reactive and Proactive Service: What's the Difference?

There is no right or wrong way to serve. I do think some slaves are more prone to reactive service and there are some slaves who are more proactive.

Some Thoughts on Domestic Service from a Male Submissive

When luna indicated that she was going to emphasize domestic service at the Sub Guide this month, it reminded me that when I tell people I am primarily a service submissive I am frequently asked: “What is that?”. The follow-up question is often, “What do you get out of that?” It seemed an opportune time to tackle these questions. (Sometimes the follow-up question is “What are you secondarily, then?” To which I always reply, “Whatever She needs me to be, of course.”)

So what is a service submissive? Simply put, it’s a sub (male or female) that takes care of household chores and similar tasks. Cooking, cleaning and other domestic duties might be performed by a service submissive. We essentially take the role of butler, maid, chauffeur, gardener or cook.

How Making a Cup of Coffee Centers Me

It's always a good thing to look at your submission from different viewpoints and to reassess why you are in the role that you are. It's how we grow and change. It's how we see what's working and what isn't.

How Being Too Eager Is Not Always a Good Thing for a Submissive

Being too eager can endanger your rational thought, your emotional and physical well-being and create a line for Dominants to take advantage of you. Here's where eagerness gets tricky.

How can I teach my boyfriend about kink without affecting the dynamic?

How do I educate my vanilla boyfriend without affecting the power balance or offending him?

Sexual Compromise: When You're Only A Little Horny

Sometimes I want to be horny, or I am physically horny but my mind isn’t into it. In these situations, I have to find a workaround to get myself where I personally want to be.

Power Exchange While in Addiction Recovery

The holiday season is hard. So hard sometimes.

Understanding the Reason Behind, "Am I The Only One?" and How to Respond (With a Bit of Netiquette Rules)

The underlying response to this question is simple, but the reason the person asked it is because it doesn't feel simple to them. Give the person compassion, not snark.