When you start doing your own self-work, or self-coaching, you may be surprised how your priorities reorganize themselves when you start focusing on your needs instead of your wants. Your needs are healthy and have a right to be met.
Read The Article | Find SimilarBeing that I’m a masochist, I love pain. I’ve never really thought about it or analyzed what that means really, but reading other people’s blogs has always helped me see that saying I’m masochist is just another huge personal term in BDSM as a whole. So, to think it though, this is what being a masochist means to me. I eroticize pain.
Read The Article | Find SimilarNo one should judge you for how you want to live your life (and if they do then they are the ones in the wrong). So, imagine my wonderment when early on in my personal development I encountered submissives and slaves that say they have a slave heart and they have a heart to serve. Or better yet, that you have to have a slave heart in order to serve. They went on to say that they don't have to work on their submission, that it comes from the heart and is easy for them.
Read The Article | Find SimilarFor me, ownership needs to feel permanent, but also part of a loving and happy relationship. The things that symbolize ownership to me are things I can't get rid of too easily since the collar needs a special allen key that he keeps to remove it and my tattoo, of course, would need to be removed surgically. Both of these mean as much to me as my engagement ring.
Read The Article | Find SimilarLearning to accept pain has various methods. I suggest you practice these the next time you play and find one or more that work best for you. The best way to learn a processing technique is to practice.
Read The Article | Find SimilarI'd like to share with you what helped me restore myself and ultimately seek the collar again.
Read The Article | Find SimilarThink about the fears you currently have about your submission, your role in your current relationship or within yourself.
Read The Article | Find SimilarHowever committed and passionate you may be about your Dom/sub relationship, making time for your kink among the cold, harsh realities of daily living is a continuous and often difficult balance.
Read The Article | Find SimilarPatience plays an important role in the life of a submissive. Spend some time with me today to reflect on patience.
Read The Article | Find SimilarSometimes you can feel so disconnected with your submission that you begin to question who you are. Here's my meditation on my personal struggle.
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