Learn How to Nourish Yourself, Your Relationship and Your Submission

Like anything else, one has to learn to go with the flow and take the highs with the lows. I hope that any beginners, and even those who are well experienced will continue the sometimes rocky journey despite the aspects of the lifestyle that can destroy and fully embrace the aspects of the lifestyle that can nourish it.

Honest Communication or Bust

"Full transparency" isn't just something we bat around on BDSM forums. And it's not necessarily something exclusive to the master/slave or owner/property dynamics. It's actually sort of important in any relationship, regardless of dynamic, or lack thereof. It is the key to "making it work". And it's best to start in the beginning.

I didn't start until what was almost the end. I wasted the first six years of our relationship telling him what I thought he wanted to hear. I thought it was my duty. My responsibility as property.

Purging Your Emotional Garbage Can Will Prepare You Better for Service

I'm sure we've all heard that this or that person comes with too much baggage. The reason I see that this is an issue at all in new relationships is due to the way it's handled. That baggage, whether it be debt, past partners still present somehow, grief, emotional issues or any other items that are brought in can weigh hard on the responsibilities of the new partner and how they interact with each other. Now, couple that with this unreal belief that a Dominant will 'fix' all that for the submissive and you are dealing with an explosive situation.

Understanding Sub Fever

Figuring out what to do once you know you have it can be difficult. Novice submissives lose their rational thought really easily when the fever takes hold.

A Slave Uniform - What's It Look Like?

KnyghtMare and I test out a slave uniform. What's it like?

He Wants to Watch: How to Share Your Masturbation Sessions With Confidence

Let's figure out how we can break down our own walls of fear, embarrassment, shyness and poor body confidence to become their favorite source of this material.

Everything You Need to Know to Have an Amazing Anal Sex Experience

Have no fear, anal play doesn't have to be scary! Let's answer some common questions about anal sex before you dive in... hehe.

Don't Judge A Label By Its Cover: Dispelling Stereotypes of D/s Roles

Personality traits do no indicate what label that person may wear in D/s or BDSM. Learn more ways we apply stereotypes and how to dispel your mistruths.