Exploring differences in discipline and punishment, Mistress Steel provides some basic definitions to help you decide which purpose you’re going for in your situation.
Read The Article | Find SimilarSo, you’ve discovered this great big world of BDSM and you just don’t know what to do now. Welcome! I suggest you start here in learning some of the vocabulary you’ll find around the internet and I want to help you get your head around all the things you’ll encounter, just a bit at a time.
Read The Series | Find SimilarEveryone at one time or another is going to go through moments of guilt. Submissives may have added self-guilt when you break a rule, or upset your Dominant. These things are going to happen as you develop and grow in your role and your life. It's hard to believe but no one is perfect.
Read The Article | Find SimilarA common tool for Dominants in their punishment arsenal is removal. You can be removed from the activity and sent to a time out area. For me, that's the kitchen. Ugh. I hate when I'm banished there.
Read The Article | Find SimilarSo how would they know when the humiliation is damaging you? Is it possible to use humiliation as a punishment without damaging a sub's self-esteem or is it best reserved strictly for play alone & nothing more?
Read The Article | Find SimilarThinking about your current situation and how you manage your life right now, do you think you would benefit from a punishment dynamic?
Read The Article | Find SimilarAccepting that my behavior is a direct reflection on Him, that my thoughts and actions need first to be scrutinized, on my own, for what I know He expects of me. I will fail again, I'm sure. And I will be back in that place.
Read The Article | Find SimilarI am going to tell you, on no uncertain terms that if your dominant is hurting you out of anger this is abusive.
Read The Article | Find SimilarMy opinion on whether safewords should be allowed during punishment (for misbehavior).
Read The Article | Find SimilarIt's not just about the lesson that the Dominant is trying to teach you, but for yourself; how to repair faith in yourself and your chosen submission, how to lift the guilt and how to humbly move on in apology, progress, and recovery.
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