Communicating While Submissive

Doms keep telling us that they’re not mind-readers, so we have to communicate. But it’s hard! Especially when it’s something they might not want to hear.

How To Perform a Self-Assessment Before You Search For a Dominant Partner

It's good to start forming an idea of who you are and what you are looking for before you start searching for a Dominant

5 Myths About Submissives and Submission

Let’s talk about the different myths surrounding submissives and submission. Some may surprise you.

The Real Meaning Behind Service and Serving as a Submissive

Service is any activity or function that you fill to make your dominant partner's life easier. This could be as simple as preparing their coffee, laying out their clothes for them or performing domestic chores. Yes, it does include the play and sex aspects of some relationships, but not all of them are wired this way.

A Slave Heart – Do You Have One? Do You Need One?

No one should judge you for how you want to live your life (and if they do then they are the ones in the wrong). So, imagine my wonderment when early on in my personal development I encountered submissives and slaves that say they have a slave heart and they have a heart to serve. Or better yet, that you have to have a slave heart in order to serve. They went on to say that they don't have to work on their submission, that it comes from the heart and is easy for them.

Creating a Personal Submissive Protocol

A personal protocol helps to organize your life and help you reach your goals. It's built with a checks and balances system so that you stay on track. I would like to encourage you to consider developing some personal protocols of your own.

How a Personal Protocol Can Aide Your Service

The first time I heard the word protocol when introduced to BDSM it was some special ritualized order of things that can happen in a relationship. It was an unspoken word when I was single. You didn't learn about protocol and no one I knew used a protocol to govern their own development and personal growth.

I'd like to change that. A personal protocol can bring you ahead of the game, no matter where you are in your submissive journey. In this article I'd like to give you a working definition of a personal protocol, how you can develop one whether you are single or in a relationship and what it can do for you.

Submissive vs. Slave

Mistress Steel tackles the submissive vs slave debate. Core differences and misconceptions are revealed.

5 Ways to Stop Thinking of Work When You Come Home to Your Dominant

It’s a struggle to change your power position mind from work to the subservient mind of the submissive at home. I know I spent a lot of time in time out when I got home because I would start my arrival from work with demands and fussiness and arguing. I had to learn quickly what would work for me to shift gears. You too can learn to shift your mindset from a work mind to your submissive at home mindset with just a few steps.