When someone becomes a submissive for the first time and finds a dominant the first words I generally hear them say is that they like being of service or they like serving. When asked what it is about service that they enjoy it tends to boil down to sex and play. There is far more to service than the play, and believe me, there are submissives that don't even play but find fulfillment in service.
Service is any activity or function that you fill to make your dominant partner's life easier. This could be as simple as preparing their coffee, laying out their clothes for them or performing domestic chores. Yes, it does include the play and sex aspects of some relationships, but not all of them are wired this way.
Take for example a domestic submissive. What calls them to serve is completely different than a service submissive (more on this term later). Each of them gains happiness and fulfillment out of the services they provide their dominant partner, but the service they provide can be very different. Many times a domestic submissive will have minimal or no sexual interaction with their owner. I've even been propositioned by a few male domestics that all they want to do is come and clean my house. It's the pleasure of cleaning for someone that they want to enjoy.
So, what does it mean to be of service to your dominant? Does it mean you will be doing the chores around the house, caring for family or pets, perhaps paying the bills and running errands? Could it mean you are a personal assistant and keep your partner in check, organized and prepared for everything the day may throw at them? Or are you the sex object that fills every fantasy and whim without a moment's hesitation? All of these things are service. Some other things that can service items can include:
- personal trainer
- pet care
- home repair
- car repair
- event planning
- child care
- intellectual conversationalist
Discover Your Purpose in Service
Finding your meaning in service isn't always easy. You have to start with what you want and need out of a relationship. I've written a whole series about Wants and Needs that you can refer to if you need help figuring these things out. Once you've identified what you need, you can develop the services around it that will feed your needs. If you require structure, you could develop a Home Control Journal. If you like to be a hostess and use anticipatory service you could have a Butler's Book. Perhaps you would like to develop your sexual service skills or your personal assistant skills and learn how to properly bathe and clothe someone. The possibilities are endless.
There is a type of submissive that seeks only to serve. In this passion, there is happiness and joy to be asked to do even menial tasks. They may derive pleasure from things other than sexual connection or play. Service Submissives can become domestics, personal assistants, chauffeurs, and handmaids.
What makes this type of submissive so special is their ability to adapt to whatever service their partner requires of them with little adjustment period. Service Submissives can bring pleasure to their dominant with little effort. It is my opinion that service submissives are rare and unique people. Not everyone can be a service submissive, but if you are one, you are worth your weight in gold and then some. All other submissives most likely look up to you for your ability to serve so smoothly.
Here are some of my ideas of what a service submissive might be.
- Personal secretary; taking calls, answering the door, responding to emails, scheduling and coffee fetching.
- Body servant; bathing, shaving, grooming and overall health care of the dominant.
- Escort; social elitist with the ability to bring attention to your owner, chat about all sorts of world topics and look beautiful on their arm.
- Service Top; when an owner is a masochist it may be requested that the submissive learn play activities to service the top.
Do you have any other ideas of what a service submissive can be? Share them in the comments!
Now that you have a better understanding of what service is, how can you use your talents to create your service resume? What services do you provide your owner? What services would they like you to learn or enhance?