Are There Subtle Ways I Can Cue My Partner Into My Interests?

We both enjoy rough sex and him being in control but have never gone beyond that. I'd like to know how to subtly tell him.

The Importance of Safety, Risk-Awareness and Consent in Pre-Scene BDSM Negotiation

Negotiation and consent are the primary ways BDSM is distinguished from abuse - they are essential parts of kinky play. But far too many people gloss over how important it is to be really good at negotiating so that you can have great kinky fun. And you want to have kinky fun, right?

Honest Communication or Bust

"Full transparency" isn't just something we bat around on BDSM forums. And it's not necessarily something exclusive to the master/slave or owner/property dynamics. It's actually sort of important in any relationship, regardless of dynamic, or lack thereof. It is the key to "making it work". And it's best to start in the beginning.

I didn't start until what was almost the end. I wasted the first six years of our relationship telling him what I thought he wanted to hear. I thought it was my duty. My responsibility as property.

Acceptance of My Feminist Submissive Identity

I have spent much time pondering the seemingly conflicting views of feminism and submission. In the first part of my article, I would like to discuss feminism and how it fits in with my view of both the BDSM community and submission. In the second part, I will explore how I practice feminism in my personal life.

Beginning Domestic Service: Making The Most Of A Frugal Food Budget

How to take care of your Dominant while conserving a frugal food budget.

Me vs the German Language - A Lesson in Patience

More times than I care to count, I find myself in the train of thought that I shouldn’t even bother because I’m never going to understand the language, so why keep torturing myself? But then, on the other hand, I get so frustrated because I can’t really communicate while out in public. This is when having a bit of patience comes into play.

BDSM Basics - How Do I Find Someone to Play With?

How to find someone to experiment with and maybe have a relationship with.

The 5 Levels of Sub Space In and Out of Playtime

Every single submissive who has experienced sub space describes it differently and you too can expect to feel something different if you ever reach that sensory high.

31 Days of Submissive Journaling - Day 17: Two Key Items Every Blog Should Have

Every blog needs an About Page and a way to categorize posts. Come learn what each of these things add to your blog and how to add them today!