RACK(Risk Aware Concensual Kink): A Realistic Alternative to SSC

If you have ever tried to explain what we do to someone that doesn't have any familiarity you will probably use these very standards to stand up to your descriptions. An alternative, but one that is even hard for some BDSM practitioners to embrace is called RACK. It stands for Risk Aware Consensual Kink. The only thing that the two safety standards have in common is the consensuality of it.

Do You Answer When Submission Calls You?

When you step foot into submission, don't make it a passive affair. Engage your senses into your new life. Take charge of how you want your submission to grow and develop. Enhance your life with the talents you have, and try hard to use all of the passion and pleasure you can muster to not only make your Dominant happy, but yourself. Find that fulfillment.

Some Thoughts on Domestic Service from a Male Submissive

When luna indicated that she was going to emphasize domestic service at the Sub Guide this month, it reminded me that when I tell people I am primarily a service submissive I am frequently asked: “What is that?”. The follow-up question is often, “What do you get out of that?” It seemed an opportune time to tackle these questions. (Sometimes the follow-up question is “What are you secondarily, then?” To which I always reply, “Whatever She needs me to be, of course.”)

So what is a service submissive? Simply put, it’s a sub (male or female) that takes care of household chores and similar tasks. Cooking, cleaning and other domestic duties might be performed by a service submissive. We essentially take the role of butler, maid, chauffeur, gardener or cook.

How Do I Know What I Like? I'm Brand New

We more experienced people do have a habit of looking at new people funny when they don't know what they are into. I think we forget that we were there once, that we floundered and stuttered when asked if we liked bondage or spanking, or if we were a Dominant or submissive. So, hopefully, we'll learn from this little article too - that we were there once.

Where To Go to Find a Kinky or D/s Partner: The Big List

When you are ready for dating you might start with this list of places. I'll do my best to list as many places as I can but I'm not currently dating so I may be rusty. I also can't guarantee that these sites will work for you, but if you don't try then you'll never know.

Getting Started At the Kinky Buffet

When everything is new and exciting, it can be easy to get swept away in the moment and want to do it all right now.

Book Review: Power Circuits by Raven Kaldera

Power Circuits is a book about polyamory in a power dynamic relationship. If you are in a power dynamic relationship and are thinking of possibly opening up your dynamic to include polyamory, then this book is a must read for all parties involved.

In a New Relationship and Self Conscious About My Body

Here are a few tips for moving from sweating over this prospect to looking forward to sharing your body with a new partner.

Learning to Appreciate the Small Moments - Submissive Meditation Monday

Everyone has time in their lives where things don't feel like they are going their way at all. It can drag you down or you can search for the positive.