Honest Communication or Bust

"Full transparency" isn't just something we bat around on BDSM forums. And it's not necessarily something exclusive to the master/slave or owner/property dynamics. It's actually sort of important in any relationship, regardless of dynamic, or lack thereof. It is the key to "making it work". And it's best to start in the beginning.

I didn't start until what was almost the end. I wasted the first six years of our relationship telling him what I thought he wanted to hear. I thought it was my duty. My responsibility as property.

Understanding a D/s Relationship as a Newbie Submissive

I am having trouble dealing with the fact that he wants that Master and sub relationship as my utmost and foremost priority in terms of my relationship status. I’ve always thought of the relationship being a normal one but more “kinky” I guess. Please help?

Beginning Domestic Service: Basic Knitting Tips and Tutorials

Once considered old ladies' busy work, I'm here to try to bring a comeback to knitting. With knitting you can provide items for the home that will not only last longer but usually work better and are far cheaper (in the long run). Knitting can be a peaceful time full of introspection while you create and craft.

You've Been a Bad Submissive: Learn How to Atone and Forgive Yourself

As a submissive, it's hard to not beat yourself up over being unintentionally disobedient. I've been known to mope around for days after I've been in trouble; basically still punishing myself - even though the punishment is complete. Punishment is so that when it's complete you can move on with a clear slate. So, how do you cure that post-infraction funk?

You Tattooed What on Your Ass? - Rational Thinking about Relationship Tattoos

We have to live with ourselves and understand that being in the lifestyle doesn't make us dumb or up for anything anyone wants us to do. We have outside lives, families and jobs that we have to show up for. So when thinking about that slave tattoo, slut on your right butt cheek or a dildo wrapped around your leg tattoo remember how do you want to represent yourself to the world.

Deceptive Submissive - The Flip Side of the Predator Dominant

Bogus submissives have only their own self-interest in mind; they manipulate others and take advantage of them for their own agenda. They cause just as much emotional damage as bogus Masters. They are a special breed of sexual predator.

Mentorships - What to Do Before the Process Begins

Like all relationships, the mentoring one is not one to be entered into lightly - not because things have to be intense but because they could be. The main thing about a mentorship is that everyone is on the same page about expectations and that the lines of communication remain open. With that in mind, there are a few things to consider when seeking a mentor.

30 Days of Submission: Day 3 - That Submissive Feeling

How do you know you are submissive or have the potential to be submissive?

The Top 3 Books I Recommend to Everyone New to BDSM

I've taken some of the guesswork out of it for you by providing you the top 3 books I recommend to everyone new to BDSM. The only thing you have to do is figure out which one you want to buy first!

Thoughts on Isolation and Feeling Alone

The more isolated I am, the more isolated I want to be. The more I rely on Master to satisfy any needs I have, the less I want anyone or anything to interfere with that.