How a Submissive Can Have Two Dominants and Make It Work (Hint: It Takes Communication)

Having 2 dominants has worked out very smoothly for the three of us actually.

Maintenance Spankings; Why Do It?

Maintenance spankings are a way to keep the relationship fresh, revive the roles on a regular basis and to not let life away from the dynamic interfere with what your relationship goals are. A maintenance spanking can be anything from a scheduled night of the week where a short and sweet spanking takes place, to a more drawn out session of power and control. Either way their purpose is to maintain the dynamic.

What NOT to Share on Your Online Profile

We all have one somewhere. FetLife being all the rage right now, but also we have alt.com, collarme.com, bondage.com, and others where we place ads and identity profiles up to get people interested. This interest can be friends or relationship related; it doesn't matter. What does matter is what we broadcast to everyone that happens across our profiles? You need to keep some things secure and really consider what's necessary to put out into the World Wide Web.

Mind Your Manners: Not just for kids anymore

When I admitted that I had crossed into adulthood, somewhere around 23, I realized that the manners that had not been instilled in me as a child hindered my interactions with people. Now, I can't say that all adults have the following problem, but I've noticed an increasing trend that needs to be stopped. As a society, we are becoming increasingly forgetful of basic manners.

Setting Realistic Goals to Realize Your Dreams

Every goal we want to set requires three things to have a chance at working. We need the right time in our lives, planning and follow through. Lack just one of these things and we will not reach those dreams of ours.

So, you may be wondering why I'm covering this topic on a submissive newsletter. Every day I set goals for myself; be more obedient, remember to reply to requests and commands appropriately, research a certain topic to better understand it, practice my stretching so that I can be more flexible, etc. All of these things are to improve my submission. Hopefully you are setting small goals for yourself too. At the end of this essay, I'd like to challenge you to set a few goals for yourself and your submission. Let's see some wonderful changes in you!

Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner

To open a dialog, communicate with your partner to understand what potential there may be, if any, for BDSM to be included in your relationship.

Simply Service eZine: February 2006

D/s e-Zine focused on Service, written by bootpig. This is the archive from February 2006. Topics include nonverbal communication, smoking pipe service, traveling and tipping guide and more! Available in PDF format for free download.

Simply Service eZine: November 2006

D/s e-Zine focused on Service, written by bootpig. This is the archive from November 2006. Topics include Personal Responsibility in BDSM, The Role of Slavery in Modern Society, a Dominant's View of Service and more! Available in PDF format for free download.

Simply Service eZine: May 2008

D/s e-Zine focused on Service, written by bootpig. This is the archive from May 2008. Topics include Productivity Tools, Is Slavery Real?, Rules of Bedding and more! Available in PDF format for free download.

A Person is Not Their Kink: Jumping Into Bed With the Wrong Person

If you want a relationship with someone who enjoys a particular kink so that you can experience it again and again, as well as the dynamics a relationship can bring, read on.