not everyone who is a bottom or submissive is in this lifestyle to experience pain. It must be daunting for the newbie who does not enjoy pain to come to a munch or party and be faced with the question “What are you into?” The newbie who likes sensual play or enjoys service may feel that s/he is not quite living up to the expectations of the lifestyle.
Read The Article | Find SimilarThere are three pain processing methods we are going to talk about today. They are acceptance, denial and devouring. Two of these methods are very common, and the third while being rare happens to be where pure masochists place themselves.
Read The Article | Find SimilarAll negative ways to manage pain don't get the full benefits of the pain and neither does the sadist.
Read The Article | Find SimilarPart of your receiving is also an exchange for the top. They want to watch you process that pain in open and positive ways so that they can get energy from it. I guess you could call a good sadist as an energy vampire along those lines.
Read The Article | Find SimilarLearning to accept pain has various methods. I suggest you practice these the next time you play and find one or more that work best for you. The best way to learn a processing technique is to practice.
Read The Article | Find SimilarAs a masochist I enjoy pain for the sake of pain. I don’t always want to escape from it; rarely do I enjoy sub space because it separates me from the pain. I want to feel it, embrace it and hold it close. I've learned a few important skills that push those pain boundaries and bring me further into a sadist’s grasp. The most valuable of those skills is visualization.
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Read The Article | Find SimilarWhen we enter into a play session the goal is the positive experience so we'll talk about the negative ways we try to process pain that will be a detriment to your enjoyment of the scene and may cause your sadist partner to not enjoy themselves as much either.
Read The Article | Find SimilarThere are two common methods to positively process pain. Dispersion and Release are more like titles for a range of positive techniques.
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