February is the love month. In the stores, everything is red, pink, and white. There are roses, teddy bears, and chocolate everywhere you turn. Actually, here, everything has looked that way since before Christmas was even over.
It is a wonderful thing to celebrate the love we have for one another. I do think that bringing attention to love in this world can do a lot of good. I certainly join the ranks with those who would agree that one day a year devoted to celebrating love is far too little.
I don't have to worry about that. We have grown a dynamic that has let us be attentive to the different ways we express love to one another, meeting each of our needs. Now, it hasn't been an easy ride and it certainly isn't perfect- there have been many hard discussions, tears, and stresses along the way. No matter the situation though, we have continued to strive for what we had hoped to grow together. It has taken forgiveness, patience, a ton of communication, and the willingness to just keep on taking the next step. I wouldn't have it any other way though because when you look at it, this is a relationship that love built.
BDSM and kink can certainly get a bad rap around all this "lovey-dovey" stuff. Don't get me wrong, I love a little bit of chocolate, some fresh flowers for the table, but I also wouldn't mind some things that last a little longer and benefit us both - like a new flogger or a crop. What stands out most to me as we approach this day is the ways that we have love and romance built right into our relationship system. BDSM relationships can be filled with extraordinary displays of love. Here are just a few of my own examples:
Love is...
- found in the way He sleeps in most mornings while I tend to other things and the way that He lets me sleep in when I am run down and needing the rest.
- in the sweet notes that I pack in Master's lunch when He isn't looking (not every day because I like when it is a surprise).
- seeing the satisfaction on His face when He can come home and relax, knowing the household has been tended to.
- in the way I remember to take out His clothes for the next day.
- how He holds me after we play and isn't afraid of the tears, the shaking, the giggles, or whatever other reaction I might have coming down from the intensity we just shared.
- the way He checks in as we play to see how it is feeling today.
- the care He puts into picking which of His collars I wear each day and admires me wearing it after He puts it on.
- cuddles on the couch watching TV.
- cooking together in the kitchen.
- the tickle "fights" that might end in some "funishment".
- letting go of all the different personas we can both adopt knowing we came into this relationship to be together, in our truest sense of selves.
Love is whatever makes your heart sing and it is a blessing to find someone(s) to share that with. If you are a kinky lover, celebrate it proudly - even if it is just in the comfort of your own home. Think about all those ways that you are loved in your relationship(s) and how you show to your Dominant that you are still head-over-heels in love with them. Great! Got that list? Share some of it with us! Inspire this community of submissives to give the beauty of this gift of love and all it has to offer and help make the world a beautiful (and still kinky) place.
