10 Tips to Make Moving In With Your Dominant (or vise-versa) Smooth and Easy

Many of the things we do when it comes to BDSM and D/s relationships seem to come faster than in a traditional relationship, so often we forget that the base of a D/s relationship is a traditional one. You are still two people that plan to cohabitate. With that comes decisions and plans, change and adjustment periods.

In the first list of tips, I want to give I'm going to cover the more basic 'vanilla' ideas that will make your submissive more comfortable as they move into your home. The second list is BDSM based tips that will hopefully start your relationship on a good footing now that you are living under the same roof.

Dating in the Lifestyle; What's the Big Deal?

I feel that we approach a Lifestyle date very differently than we would in a vanilla context.

When Masturbation Is No Longer Private - Playing With Yourself For Your Dominant

We give up many things when we enter into a D/s relationship those that I have given up I have done so freely but not without having taken baby steps. As my Sir required that I masturbate for him I was blown away, what give up my most private, and as many of us are brought up to believe, the most embarrassing thing to be caught at.

What Does "Breaking a Slave" Mean?

It certainly seems that as slaves, we do pass a point where the major force of our resistance and self-defensive mechanisms, the shell, is broken, and we enter a state of pliancy and moldability for our owners.

Letting Go of the Bank Account - Submitting to Financial Control

Personally, I am not a very organized person and on top of that I'm lousy with numbers, always was, even in elementary school. If my check book was ever going to be balanced accordingly, someone else was just going to have to do it! Fortunately for my check book and I, my Dominant is better organized and more patient with a calculator, and even more fortunate for us he's very good at it.

What Do I Do When He Says "Have A Threesome or I'm Leaving"?

He recently began expressing a desire for a threesome. Master has now said that he sees this as a major obstacle to our relationship and doesn't know if He can continue being with me.

The Art of Apology: Knowing When to Apologize

How do you know when you owe someone an apology? Continuing kallista's series on apologizing with knowing when an apology is necessary.

A Lesson on The Importance of Online Safety from Kitty Thomas' "Tender Mercies"

There are a lot of risks that comes with meeting people online. Tequilarose shares a lesson she picked up from reading "Tender Mercies" by Kitty Thomas about online safety and abusive situations.

Finding a Compatible Partner in the Lifestyle

Yes, it is hard to find that special partner who will give you what you want and compliment you in every aspect. However, think back to when you were dating in the vanilla realm. Was it just as hard? Some of you will say no, some will say yes. Those of you that say no, why is that you think?