10 Ways to Maintain a Healthy Dynamic in Isolation with Your Dominant

While many of us will feel guilty when we need time away from our dominants, there is no question that it is productive and therapeutic. If you're stuck in self-isolation, having coping mechanisms to help you through the "total togetherness" can be a big help!

Some Thoughts on Domestic Service from a Male Submissive

When luna indicated that she was going to emphasize domestic service at the Sub Guide this month, it reminded me that when I tell people I am primarily a service submissive I am frequently asked: “What is that?”. The follow-up question is often, “What do you get out of that?” It seemed an opportune time to tackle these questions. (Sometimes the follow-up question is “What are you secondarily, then?” To which I always reply, “Whatever She needs me to be, of course.”)

So what is a service submissive? Simply put, it’s a sub (male or female) that takes care of household chores and similar tasks. Cooking, cleaning and other domestic duties might be performed by a service submissive. We essentially take the role of butler, maid, chauffeur, gardener or cook.

A Day in the Life: Autumn Raine Skye

This is a guest post by Autumn Raine Skye for the Day in the Life Series.

Adding The Second Submissive - Branching Out Into Poly Relationships For The First Time

Adding another to a once closed relationship has been a learning experience and one that I'm sure I have more to explore and understand. For now I think we are on a path to even more happiness than I could have imagined.

What To Do When You Encounter Limits Mid Scene

I'd like you to understand that it is okay to find limits you didn't know where there. They could be play activities that you never experienced before that you found you don't like or it could be a pain or sensation edge. Either way, it does not make you any less of a person or a submissive or a masochist. It actually makes you that much more unique and special.

Becoming Comfortable with My Submissive Role

Submitting did not make my thoughts less valuable or inappropriate, it simply meant that I would have to learn to accept that the final decision lay with my partner, my Dom, not with me.

Nobody's Perfect-Including Your Dominant!

It’s really easy for those of us who are S-types to think that our D-types are perfect. And that is the furthest thing from the truth.

These Aren't Your Toys! Child-Proofing For Your BDSM Toys

In an effort to keep our lifestyle to ourselves, we needed to put in some precautions to keep our adult toys out of reach and out of their imaginations.

‘Innocently’ Outing Fellow Lifestylers

Be mindful of the information you know about someone else that's kinky. Sometimes, things can seem so very innocuous that information can ‘slip’ out casually – we may innocently drop in the ears of others. The fact is they either teeter on outing someone or can flat-out out someone.