Expectations of a Collar: How Ready Are You to Accept One?

When do you know you are ready for a collar? What's the value in a collar really? And how can you get one?

What NOT to Do and Say When Someone You Know is Uncollared

The intensely emotional end of a D/s relationship, where one no longer wears a collar can be a moment where you as a friend can shine, but keep in mind the consideration and delicate nature of bringing up a painful discussion. Let’s discuss some possible etiquette around a friend who has been recently uncollared.

10 Tips to Make Moving In With Your Dominant (or vise-versa) Smooth and Easy

Many of the things we do when it comes to BDSM and D/s relationships seem to come faster than in a traditional relationship, so often we forget that the base of a D/s relationship is a traditional one. You are still two people that plan to cohabitate. With that comes decisions and plans, change and adjustment periods.

In the first list of tips, I want to give I'm going to cover the more basic 'vanilla' ideas that will make your submissive more comfortable as they move into your home. The second list is BDSM based tips that will hopefully start your relationship on a good footing now that you are living under the same roof.

How to Write a Submissive Life Mission Statement

A life mission statement is a way of saying, "these are my goals and code of conduct for how I want to live my life." There is no wrong or right way to write one but there are several steps that can bring you to a workable statement that will help give you focus and direction to your life.

You Tattooed What on Your Ass? - Rational Thinking about Relationship Tattoos

We have to live with ourselves and understand that being in the lifestyle doesn't make us dumb or up for anything anyone wants us to do. We have outside lives, families and jobs that we have to show up for. So when thinking about that slave tattoo, slut on your right butt cheek or a dildo wrapped around your leg tattoo remember how do you want to represent yourself to the world.

Perspectives: Erotic Spanking

Erotic spanking. It is probably the most common kinky play activity and is done in a lot of relationships that may know nothing about kink at all to those who are extremely kinky. It’s just a hot thing to do during sex. I was being spanked long before I entered the scene. I hope that I never stop being spanked.

Domifriends: The Best of Both Worlds

In the Vanilla World, we refer to boyfriends and girlfriends and everyone understands what we’re talking about. If you’re not in a public D/s relationship, describing your Dom/me can be a bit challenging.

What Is The Expectation of Communication in an Online D/s Relationship?

What is your view concerning the care, direction, and contact of Dominants w/their subs?

Sub Drop From Afar: Managing Sub Drop in a Long Distance Relationship

If you are in a long distance relationship, this becomes an even more pressing topic of conversation if you are still participating in intensive play.

Even in Lessons There Are More Lessons: How Being Punished Has More To Teach Than You Realize

It's not just about the lesson that the Dominant is trying to teach you, but for yourself; how to repair faith in yourself and your chosen submission, how to lift the guilt and how to humbly move on in apology, progress, and recovery.