Full Question: What personality traits can I look for in a person to know if they are or could be Dominant? Answer: When you are looking for a Dominant to be in a power exchange relationship, you may wonder if there is a radar of some sort that will help you recognize them “out in […]
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Full Question: Please help. I’ve been so lost since my Master’s death. I feel so incomplete. Too many decisions, where’s my rules, where’s my life? How do I maintain my structure? I don’t know where to start, end or if I’m running in circles. Answer: I’m so sorry to hear of the death of your
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Full Question: After a lot of struggle and research and thought, it’s really clear to me that I’m sexually submissive. That’s what turns me on and how I am in intimate relationships. The problem is I don’t see how this would fit in the life I want. I always imagine a life where I’m the
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Full Question: I met someone online, and he opened up to me about BDSM and him being a Dom. I had never even heard of the term before. Almost a year later, I still have a lot of questions unanswered. He wants us to meet, and so do I, but I’m scared. He says that
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Full Question: I’m a sub, and my wife is an amazing Domme, but she prefers not to do scenes as often as I would like. Is it unheard of to have a regular Domme that isn’t your partner? I feel like I need this more than she does, and to have an outlet to sub
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Full Question: My Dom and I have been together for three years. We are each other’s first when it comes to D/s, and we are learning and exploring together. Mostly, we have navigated and communicated our journey wonderfully. However, He opened up to me a few days after quite an extreme scene, where I cried
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Full Question: Do you think that someone can lose their submissive side? And how do they get it back? Answer: I feel if you identify as submissive, you can’t actually lose it, but you can lose sight of why you are submissive and what your focus in submission is. I get visibly angry at the
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Full Question: How do you safely enter this lifestyle without being scammed? Answer: You’ve got two pretty big questions here, and I’ll do my best to answer them. First, it makes sense to be safe when looking for a partner. We’ve gone to the mentality that instant compatibility is easy. Finding a compatible partner requires
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Full Question: How would I know if I am a submissive? Answer: Submission has been called a gift, a natural characteristic, and a choice. Some people find submission a natural way to live, and it comes to them easily and simply. Other submissives have to learn about submission step by step. When you feel you
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Full Question: I am a new sub to the BDSM scene. Since my partner and Dom recently learned that I like being submissive, he has encouraged me to look into the BDSM community. The one thing that concerns me is everything in D/s relationships seems to lead back to SM, and I am not a
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Full Question: I am a submissive female. I broke up with my boyfriend because he pushed me too far and I wasn’t in a position to slow him down. I have/had a safeword, but I wasn’t able to use it because I was umm . . . in a vulnerable position. What other ways are
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Full Question: What really are the differences between submissive and slave? Can you be one and then change your mind later? Answer: Types of submissives come in as many varieties as wines; there is one for every palette and preference. When someone tells you that you are submissive and you finally admit to yourself that
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Full Question: I met a new Master online, and we seemed to hit it off well. We saw each other in person twice. Then he just stopped replying to my texts. I asked if he had changed his mind about me, but he didn’t even respond to that. What does this mean? I don’t know
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Full Question: Lately, I’ve been noticing my Dominant softening up. He’s been acting like more of a boyfriend than a dominant, and I don’t know why. I’m afraid he may be losing interest in being my dominant. I’m not happy because it is something that I crave and need. I don’t know how to talk
Full Question: I am a submissive sissy with a Dom Daddy that likes to give me oral pleasure but I don’t like it. When he does it reminds me of my male side and turns me off! How can I explain to him how I wish he wouldn’t do that? Answer: It can be hard
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Full Question: Can the Dominant take control over ALL my life, even if I don’t want this? We are not in a 24/7 dynamic, it’s too much and they ask things I don’t wanna do. Answer: The simple answer here is no, a Dominant can not take control of anything that you’ve not negotiated beforehand.
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Full Question: How common, realistic or successful is it to be seeking a Dominant with specific physical, emotional, and social traits? Is it rude to blatantly list specific physical and personality characteristics? (eg. ABC sub seeking Dom/Master with XYZ) Answer: It’s extremely common to have preferences for partners. When you’re dating and looking for a
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Full Question: I am desperate. I have been the submissive guy of a dominant man, in the beginning, I asked if there was another relationship apart from mine, and he said no. Yesterday I discovered that he has a boyfriend and various sexual partners. What should do as a submissive? Answer: So you asked him
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Full Question: How would I go about transitioning from face-to-face to LDR D/s relationship? We’re going to different Universities. Answer: Long-Distance Relationships are quite different from regular relationships and they are not easy to handle but they can be challenging and a lot of fun too. It’s a new way of living life altogether! Researching
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Question: How can I help my Dominant when they are in Dom Drop? What about if we both drop at the same time? Answer: A common conversation in BDSM circles is sub drop but rarely, if ever, is Dom drop discussed. It is a real thing and does happen! We focus so much on caring
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