If the idea of putting something in your butt or enjoying anal sex makes you hesitate, you aren’t alone. Even though anal sex has made huge steps toward acceptance, it remains an underrated, almost taboo activity. Exploring anal training is often filled with discomfort, both mental and physical, but despite what porn or movies would […]
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Full Question: Advice for therapists who work with BDSM clients? Answer: I’d be happy to provide my thoughts on improving therapy for BDSM persons seeking therapy. First, it’s always hard for us to open up about these things, and we’ve been told to keep it a secret for a long time. We may need a
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Full Question: How does one discern if a Dom is abusive? Answer: Dominants and submissives can be abusive to their partners. We’re going to focus on Dominants for this question, but if you are Dominant or in an egalitarian relationship, the following questions can help you discern abuse also. The core of BDSM is consent,
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Full Question: What can I do when I feel depressed and have the urge to withdraw from my dominant or pretend that I’m okay? Answer: Depression is difficult to go through, and I’m sorry you’re dealing with it. I applaud your efforts to find ways to battle some of the symptoms. I hope that I
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Full Question: Hello, I’m just confused that my girlfriend is not so into BDSM things. How can I help her get interested? Answer: This is a common situation that does not have an easy answer. It is important because it is not sufficient for many of us to bury our desires and needs for BDSM.
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Full Question: I have started to converse with a D that interests me. Now before I get swept up in the feels of being a sub, I want to make sure I am checking the right boxes. What am I looking for in terms of time to build the d/s relationship? Obviously, this will
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Full Question: I did something, and my Master was angry. Yes, I have apologized to Him, and He has already punished me for it, but I still feel that He is upset with me. He avoids having full conversations with me, and whenever I ask Him if He is still mad, He says He is
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Full Question: I’m a submissive who’s dominant and won’t tie me up. He never wants to have sex with me. I love him, but I’m so unhappy When it comes to our sex life. He isn’t attracted to me. I lived with him for 3 months & he tied me up once & barely did
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Full Question: It’s hard for me to let go and orgasm when I’m with him because he makes me nervous. But he makes me nervous in a good way! Do you have any advice for this? Answer: Feeling overwhelmingly nervous during sex will impact your ability to relax and let go. A million different factors
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Full Question: Luna…I am so very confused. I know I am submissive, but lately, I have been questioning if I am a sub or a baby girl. I don’t know exactly how to differentiate between the two, as the lines are kind of blurry for Daddy Doms. Help? Answer: Labels are confusing. They often have
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Full Question: I recently met a Dominant who is amazing and “seems” to be exactly what I have been looking for, but I’m afraid that he is too good to be true. When looking for a new Dominant, how do I know that he could be my next Master? Answer: Relationships are hard work. Once
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Full Question: My question revolves around the idea of being a new sub and wanting desperately to act it out with almost anyone who will play the Domme. It’s a kind of frenzy. But as you grow into the role, how do you set sensible boundaries and have a code of honor and values so
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Full Question: How do I speak to my master about formal etiquette training? I am a collared slave, and I would like there to be a high protocol for days we plan intense scenes.. just so that I can get in the right head space. I don’t want to be pushy, but I crave that
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Full Question: In a 24/7 Daddy/little dynamic with my husband. How can I get back in little headspace after being pissed off at Daddy? Answer: It’s difficult to return to any D/s role after a moment of anger. You are likely emotionally charged, and perhaps you still feel pains of anger, frustration, or sadness. Turning
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Full Question: I am very Submissive to my man, but it still seems as if he still is putting me down when we argue. I never just throw hurtful stuff in his face, but it seems as if he wants me sometimes, and at other times, if it’s not about sex, forget it. Should I
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Full Question: I have body image issues, and I am frequently asked (well told) to touch myself and make myself cum. The problem is that I don’t enjoy touching myself (probably because I am disgusted by my body). Masturbation has never been something I enjoyed doing. If/when I actually do it, I use a vibe.
Full Question: I am meeting a Dom for the first time…and am uncertain whether I should ask him if he has any preference in terms of what he’d like me to wear? I like him and would like very much to wear something that I know would please him…but I am acutely sensitive to the
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Full Question: How do I become more confident with dirty talk? Answer: Taking the first steps toward talking dirty isn’t an easy process. You have to deal with embarrassment, discomfort, and the fear that your partner will just laugh at you. It takes practice and repetition to learn to talk dirty when you aren’t confident
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Full Question: When and how do you negotiate with your partner? I want him to be happy, and I’m willing to make compromises; I just want to balance sticking to my own values. Answer: I think we all want our partners to be happy without sacrificing our own values and needs. Negotiating happens at the
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Full Question: I’m 27 now, but there was a guy I was crazy about at school. We never got together but talked for hours about everything, including kink. We lost touch for a few years, and now we have been talking again. When we met, we ended up kissing. Then he decided he didn’t want
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