Full Question: How would I know if I am a submissive? Answer: Submission has been called a gift, a natural characteristic, and a choice. Some people find submission a natural way to live, and it comes to them easily and simply. Other submissives have to learn about submission step by step. When you feel you […]
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Full Question: I am a new sub to the BDSM scene. Since my partner and Dom recently learned that I like being submissive, he has encouraged me to look into the BDSM community. The one thing that concerns me is everything in D/s relationships seems to lead back to SM, and I am not a
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Full Question: I am a submissive female. I broke up with my boyfriend because he pushed me too far and I wasn’t in a position to slow him down. I have/had a safeword, but I wasn’t able to use it because I was umm . . . in a vulnerable position. What other ways are
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Full Question: What really are the differences between submissive and slave? Can you be one and then change your mind later? Answer: Types of submissives come in as many varieties as wines; there is one for every palette and preference. When someone tells you that you are submissive and you finally admit to yourself that
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Full Question: I met a new Master online, and we seemed to hit it off well. We saw each other in person twice. Then he just stopped replying to my texts. I asked if he had changed his mind about me, but he didn’t even respond to that. What does this mean? I don’t know
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Full Question: Lately, I’ve been noticing my Dominant softening up. He’s been acting like more of a boyfriend than a dominant, and I don’t know why. I’m afraid he may be losing interest in being my dominant. I’m not happy because it is something that I crave and need. I don’t know how to talk
Full Question: I am a submissive sissy with a Dom Daddy that likes to give me oral pleasure but I don’t like it. When he does it reminds me of my male side and turns me off! How can I explain to him how I wish he wouldn’t do that? Answer: It can be hard
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Full Question: Can the Dominant take control over ALL my life, even if I don’t want this? We are not in a 24/7 dynamic, it’s too much and they ask things I don’t wanna do. Answer: The simple answer here is no, a Dominant can not take control of anything that you’ve not negotiated beforehand.
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Full Question: How common, realistic or successful is it to be seeking a Dominant with specific physical, emotional, and social traits? Is it rude to blatantly list specific physical and personality characteristics? (eg. ABC sub seeking Dom/Master with XYZ) Answer: It’s extremely common to have preferences for partners. When you’re dating and looking for a
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Full Question: I am desperate. I have been the submissive guy of a dominant man, in the beginning, I asked if there was another relationship apart from mine, and he said no. Yesterday I discovered that he has a boyfriend and various sexual partners. What should do as a submissive? Answer: So you asked him
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Full Question: How would I go about transitioning from face-to-face to LDR D/s relationship? We’re going to different Universities. Answer: Long-Distance Relationships are quite different from regular relationships and they are not easy to handle but they can be challenging and a lot of fun too. It’s a new way of living life altogether! Researching
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Question: How can I help my Dominant when they are in Dom Drop? What about if we both drop at the same time? Answer: A common conversation in BDSM circles is sub drop but rarely, if ever, is Dom drop discussed. It is a real thing and does happen! We focus so much on caring
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Full Question: How can I be a bratty submissive so that my Dom enjoys it without losing my submissiveness? Answer: Being a bratty submissive can be a challenge! Brattiness has a broad spectrum from the playful “uppity bottom” to the smart-ass masochist. A brat is a bottom who enjoys struggling against control or challenging the
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Question: My Dom disappoints me sometimes….how can I open up to him about it? Answer: It can be really hard to confront your Dominant when they’ve disappointed you in some way. As submissives, we can feel that raising concerns about our Dominant’s behavior isn’t allowed or at the very least, isn’t submissive-like. But in all
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Question: I am supposed to meet my 1st Dom tomorrow. Do you have any suggestions for me? Things to look out for to be safe or things to please him? Answer: Meeting a potential Dominant for the first time can be an exciting and anxious experience. For first dates, make sure you have basic information
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Question: I am still fairly new to this (six months). I love having Submissive Guide, but wish I could connect with other submissives in my area. Does anyone know how to find groups/gatherings? Answer: It’s going to require a bit of digging to find local groups and you should decide now how far you’re willing
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Full Question: I am in a long-distance D/s relationship. We normally just stick to a regular dynamic but he is coming to visit me in a few weeks and has said he wants to switch. I just want to know how far should I take things. He has said he wants me to punish him
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Full Question: Can a little be a slave? How would this dynamic look different from a “normal” m/s dynamic? How would it look the same? Answer: Yes! This answer is for any submissive role, so if you aren’t a little or a slave you will hopefully learn a bit more about roles in BDSM. Roles
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Question: Why is everything about BDSM/kink sexual? I read a post on FetLife once stating that a play scene could absolutely be non-sexual, but of course, they didn’t give any examples. I have never seen a non-sexual scene. If non-sexual play is possible, then why is almost everyone naked (or close to it) at play
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Question: What is sub drop? How do I explain it to my partner? Answer: Great question! I think once you know what it is, you will be able to explain what it is to your partner, so let’s break it down. Sub drop is a physical and sometimes emotional crash after an intense play or
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