One of the easier topics for me to research has been Domestic Discipline. There is so much information out there of all types on this sort of relationship. Much of it is terrible. I've weeded through a lot of misunderstandings to get to the truth. Here's what I've learned.

Domestic Discipline is the practice between two consenting life partners in which the husband (or head of the household) takes the necessary measures to achieve a healthy marriage (or relationship) dynamic; the necessary measures to create a healthy home environment; and the necessary measures to protect all members of the family from dangerous or detrimental outcomes by punishing the contributing, and thus unwanted, behaviors for the greater good of the entire family.  In addition to punishing the unwanted behaviors, the husband (or head of the household) is also responsible for rewarding the positive behaviors in an effort to reinforce them for the greater good of the entire family.  The husband is ALWAYS to do this in a very safe, loving, healthy, controlled, and composed manner. (Learning Domestic Discipline Blog)

Is this sort of relationship considered a BDSM relationship? Not exactly. While there could be elements of BDSM or D/s it is first and foremost an equal but authority based relationship. More often than not it has a Christian core where the woman's service is in obedience to God's commandment to love and obey your husband as you do your God.

Website Links

Learning Domestic Discipline - I've been following this blog for a year. It has monthly challenges and fascinating essays about all sorts of topics concerning Domestic Discipline. If you want to read more personal blogs about DD make sure you check out the blogroll in the sidebar.

Christian Domestic Discipline

 - This site has been around for awhile. It covers all the Biblical reasons to establish a husband-led relationship.

The Marriage Bed - Domestic Discipline

 - An essay from a site on sex and intimacy in a Christian marriage.


Domestic Discipline by Jules Markham - Read my review of the book here on Submissive Guide

The Adult Spanking and Discipline Handbook: A Comprehensive Guide To Corporal Punishment

 by Governess Gemma Forbes

FetLife Groups

Other Resources

This thing we do - Forum and community of DD persons

Learning Domestic Discipline - Community associated with the blog by the same name


What do you have to add? Favorite links, essays or resources? Please leave a comment!