Full Question: What is the secret to a successful LDR? Answer: There’s no secret to successful relationships, no matter if they are long-distance or face-to-face. All relationships require both parties to work hard to cultivate the feelings and connection necessary to build that relationship and make it strong. Overall, a successful LDR requires effort, commitment, […]
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Full Question: Is it okay to fall in love with the dom I am with? And how can I communicate this with my dom? Answer: It is entirely normal for submissives to develop feelings for their Dominants. BDSM relationships can often involve intense emotional connections and trust, leading to romantic feelings. Most relationships are formed
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Full Question: What is a Day Collar? Do you have one? Could you share a picture? Answer: When people talk about Day Collars, they mean a collar that doesn’t look like an obvious leather BDSM collar. Generally, it is discreet in appearance, often passing for conventional jewelry. Some professions have wardrobe or safety rules regarding
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Full Question: Do dominants normally celebrate their sub’s birthday? Answer: Whenever I get asked about what is normal, I’m reminded of a quote from Tori Spelling, “Everybody knows there’s no such thing as normal. There is no black-and-white definition of normal. Normal is subjective.” So, do Dominants celebrate their sub’s birthday? Yes. Or no. It
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Full Question: How do you know when it’s time to move on from a relationship? Answer: If you’re asking this question, it’s likely time. No one happy in their relationship asks them if they should leave the relationship. We pour a lot into our relationships. Here are four signs that it may be time to
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Full Question: How does one discern if a Dom is abusive? Answer: Dominants and submissives can be abusive to their partners. We’re going to focus on Dominants for this question, but if you are Dominant or in an egalitarian relationship, the following questions can help you discern abuse also. The core of BDSM is consent,
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Full Question: I have started to converse with a D that interests me. Now before I get swept up in the feels of being a sub, I want to make sure I am checking the right boxes. What am I looking for in terms of time to build the d/s relationship? Obviously, this will
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Full Question: I’m a submissive who’s dominant and won’t tie me up. He never wants to have sex with me. I love him, but I’m so unhappy When it comes to our sex life. He isn’t attracted to me. I lived with him for 3 months & he tied me up once & barely did
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Full Question: I recently met a Dominant who is amazing and “seems” to be exactly what I have been looking for, but I’m afraid that he is too good to be true. When looking for a new Dominant, how do I know that he could be my next Master? Answer: Relationships are hard work. Once
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Full Question: How do I speak to my master about formal etiquette training? I am a collared slave, and I would like there to be a high protocol for days we plan intense scenes.. just so that I can get in the right head space. I don’t want to be pushy, but I crave that
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Full Question: In a 24/7 Daddy/little dynamic with my husband. How can I get back in little headspace after being pissed off at Daddy? Answer: It’s difficult to return to any D/s role after a moment of anger. You are likely emotionally charged, and perhaps you still feel pains of anger, frustration, or sadness. Turning
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Full Question: I am very Submissive to my man, but it still seems as if he still is putting me down when we argue. I never just throw hurtful stuff in his face, but it seems as if he wants me sometimes, and at other times, if it’s not about sex, forget it. Should I
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Full Question: I’m 27 now, but there was a guy I was crazy about at school. We never got together but talked for hours about everything, including kink. We lost touch for a few years, and now we have been talking again. When we met, we ended up kissing. Then he decided he didn’t want
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Full Question: After a lot of struggle and research and thought, it’s really clear to me that I’m sexually submissive. That’s what turns me on and how I am in intimate relationships. The problem is I don’t see how this would fit in the life I want. I always imagine a life where I’m the
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Full Question: I’m a sub, and my wife is an amazing Domme, but she prefers not to do scenes as often as I would like. Is it unheard of to have a regular Domme that isn’t your partner? I feel like I need this more than she does, and to have an outlet to sub
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Full Question: My Dom and I have been together for three years. We are each other’s first when it comes to D/s, and we are learning and exploring together. Mostly, we have navigated and communicated our journey wonderfully. However, He opened up to me a few days after quite an extreme scene, where I cried
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Full Question: I met a new Master online, and we seemed to hit it off well. We saw each other in person twice. Then he just stopped replying to my texts. I asked if he had changed his mind about me, but he didn’t even respond to that. What does this mean? I don’t know
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Full Question: Lately, I’ve been noticing my Dominant softening up. He’s been acting like more of a boyfriend than a dominant, and I don’t know why. I’m afraid he may be losing interest in being my dominant. I’m not happy because it is something that I crave and need. I don’t know how to talk
Full Question: I am a submissive sissy with a Dom Daddy that likes to give me oral pleasure but I don’t like it. When he does it reminds me of my male side and turns me off! How can I explain to him how I wish he wouldn’t do that? Answer: It can be hard
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Full Question: Can the Dominant take control over ALL my life, even if I don’t want this? We are not in a 24/7 dynamic, it’s too much and they ask things I don’t wanna do. Answer: The simple answer here is no, a Dominant can not take control of anything that you’ve not negotiated beforehand.
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