How do you move on from a failed relationship while in the same BDSM community?

Full Question: How do you move on from a dynamic that was ended in an unclear way or with unresolved issues? We are still in the same community, and I don’t want things to be this awkward, but they are very uncomfortable right now. Answer:  Navigating a breakup can be challenging, especially when unresolved issues

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What are some ideas for keeping long-distance D/s engaged and spicy?

Full Question: What are some ideas for keeping long-distance D/s engaged and spicy? Answer:  Building an engaged long-distance D/s relationship takes a lot of patient work, but with some simple ideas, you can keep your relationship going with lots of connection and spicy play. First, a long-distance relationship will rely on a lot of communication,

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How do I avoid developing feelings for a Dominant that I’m not in a romantic relationship with?

Full Question: How can I avoid getting too attached to or developing romantic feelings for a Dominant with whom I’m not in a romantic relationship? Answer:  Whether you’re in a casual relationship with this Dominant or just a really good friend and are beginning to crush on them, trying to avoid developing feelings of love

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What is a punishment dynamic?

Full Question: Can you talk about punishment dynamics? What’s fair? What’s too much? How do you negotiate it? Answer: A punishment dynamic is a consensual agreement between partners that the Dominant one will watch and correct poor behavior in the submissive. This can be from following rules and particular instructions or used to break bad

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How can I approach a Dominant?

Full Question: How can I approach a Dominant? Answer:  Many submissives struggle to approach Dominants due to fear of not appearing submissive as the pursuer. However, it is possible to approach a Dominant with confidence. Here are some tips: Face-to-Face: Online: Overall, confidence, authenticity, and assertiveness are key when approaching Dominants, whether in person or

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How do you know when you’re ready to start sub training?

Full Question: How do you know when you’re ready to start sub-training? Answer:  It depends on what you consider submissive training.  First, let’s discuss what the word ‘training’ really means in a D/s dynamic setting. When you undergo training, what is really meant is that you are learning the mannerisms, behavior, attitude, and activities that

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How do I feel connected with my Dominant the weeks we don’t see each other?

Full Question: How do I feel connected with my Dominant the weeks we don’t see each other? Answer:  It’s never easy to face being alone when you’d rather be spending time with your Dominant partner. Working on hobbies, hanging out with friends, and interacting with the BDSM community are great for distracting you and making

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How do I find a partner?

Full Question: How do I find a partner who is interested in kink and/or D/s? Answer:  This is the most asked question in the Ask Submissive Guide column, so here’s your answer! The first step in finding a partner is going where they are. The good news is that kinksters are everywhere. Unfortunately, we don’t

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How can I explain to my partner that pain play isn’t my only desired source of pleasure?

Full Question: How can I explain to my wife that while I enjoy being spanked and flogged, it doesn’t mean pain play is my only source of pleasure or intimacy? Answer:  Your communication with your wife should be open and honest, even about things in the bedroom. It can be difficult for people to talk

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