Full Question: How do I know if I’m being too emotionally dependent on my Dom?
Answer:
Emotional support is one of the biggest benefits of having a relationship. Your partners are there for you in times of need, and stress can offer you empathy and comfort, even guidance.
Emotional dependence passes the point of support. Most romantic relationships depend on each other to some extent. When you need your partner to meet all of your emotional needs, that’s a problem. Suppose you stop finding ways to care for your own emotions, manage or seek support outside of your intimate relationship, or expect someone else to tell you how to feel. In that case, you’re too emotionally dependent on someone else.
Dominant/submissive relationships imply some level of dependence between the submissive and the Dominant. But feeling as if you can’t live without their emotional support can suggest your relationship has veered toward an unhealthy level of dependence.
Other key signs of emotional dependence include:
- an idealized view of your partner or the relationship
- the belief your life lacks meaning without them
- the belief you can’t find happiness or security alone
- a constant need for reassurance
- feelings of emptiness and anxiety when spending time alone
- needing them to build your self-esteem, confidence, and self-worth
- feelings of jealousy or possessiveness
- difficulty trusting in their feelings for you
Emotionally dependent people typically need a lot of reassurance and support from their partners. But there is help. You can begin to reclaim your emotional health again.
- Acknowledge your feelings as you feel them. It’s okay if you have difficulty sitting with uncomfortable feelings.
- Find ways to care for your needs through self-care and spending time with other friends and family.
- Identify specific triggers and work to use healthy coping skills for them.
- Talk to a professional if you need further help. It’s okay to seek someone to talk to and help you learn these new skills.
