Start Here: Don't Begin Exploring BDSM Until You've Read the Basics

There are so many primers out there about BDSM I'm not sure if another one is really needed. Then again with all the basic questions asked on forums and chat rooms about BDSM it's unlikely that my words will not be read by someone and that they will take something new from them.

Maintenance Spankings; Why Do It?

Maintenance spankings are a way to keep the relationship fresh, revive the roles on a regular basis and to not let life away from the dynamic interfere with what your relationship goals are. A maintenance spanking can be anything from a scheduled night of the week where a short and sweet spanking takes place, to a more drawn out session of power and control. Either way their purpose is to maintain the dynamic.

Nonverbal Ways to Safeword

There will be occasions during BDSM play where you will be unable to speak. In these cases it is nice to have a backup signal to slow or stop the play. Many of these times you are tied up, gagged or otherwise unable to vocalize. When you can't talk you need a safe object.

What I Think about Underage Experimentation and Submission

I am curious about what your thoughts on those who admit to participating underage are?

Who Really Has the Power in a D/s Relationship?

Essentially I think we all believe that Dominant/submissive is an exchange of power but when you talk about it with others there happens to be two schools of thought on it. It can really get confusing because each side believes they are right. I'd like to present to you the two ideas and let you make the decision; who has the power, really?

How a Personal Protocol Can Aide Your Service

The first time I heard the word protocol when introduced to BDSM it was some special ritualized order of things that can happen in a relationship. It was an unspoken word when I was single. You didn't learn about protocol and no one I knew used a protocol to govern their own development and personal growth.

I'd like to change that. A personal protocol can bring you ahead of the game, no matter where you are in your submissive journey. In this article I'd like to give you a working definition of a personal protocol, how you can develop one whether you are single or in a relationship and what it can do for you.

Perspectives: Rope Bondage

Playing with rope is one of the first things that I was exposed to when I discovered kink. To me it was safe and tame and something that didn’t scream kinky freak to me. Besides that I didn’t know what I was doing, the person that I chose to introduce me to a bit of rope did and it was a fantastic first experience all around.

30 Days of Submission: Day 11 - Service Submission

Do you include service as a part of your expectations of your submission?

30 Days of Submission: Day 21 - Positions of Submission

Is there a physical position that makes you feel most submissive?

How Being Too Eager Is Not Always a Good Thing for a Submissive

Being too eager can endanger your rational thought, your emotional and physical well-being and create a line for Dominants to take advantage of you. Here's where eagerness gets tricky.