I stumbled across this book via a book group on Fetlife and I am happy that I did. The author, Jessica Howe has done something absolutely amazing with her time and energy with putting together “ Kinky Sex: The Secret to Long-Term Desire”. Even though this book doesn’t really focus on being in a D/s or M/s relationship, it is really great for those who are new to the world of kink and need some help communicating this to their partners. I have seen so many “Ask Luna” letters from submissives wanting to know how to introduce kink to their partners and this is the perfect book for this.
Howe opens up the book with discussing some reasons about why passion tends to fizzle out of relationships as well as a questionnaire to fill out to help you discover some of your sexual interests. Depending on what questions you answer yes to, shows what areas you have a strong inclination to, things such as exhibitionism, voyeurism, bondage and others and then a brief description of all the categories. After you’ve found out where you fit in on the kinky scale, she gives some advice as to where to find your kinky partner both in person and online as well.
A big chunk of the book is dedicated to how to introduce your partner to kink. How to discuss your fantasies, how to get your partner to open up about their fantasies, and different types of play and how to bring up your interests in those kinds of play, such as wax play, electric play, public play, and of course, dominance and submission as well as many others. Not only does Howe describe how to bring up these topics to your partner, she also includes positions, toy descriptions, and most importantly, how to perform these acts in a safe fashion, which we all know is extremely important.
The last part of the book discusses getting geared up and putting together your very own toy bag that includes fun pervertables that can be found around the house as well as a few toys that she personally recommends. I even learned about a fun new toy that’s already been added to my Amazon shopping cart for bondage fun!
Another thing, asides from the amazing and down to earth advice in this book is the quotes from people about what they do to spice up the bedroom and how much fun they have while doing so. There’s also snippets of erotica during the sections and while the short pieces will get your blood pumping, the stories are also great because they give examples of how to play out a certain fantasy or kink and is also a great way to get interests piqued.
Overall, this is the perfect book for individuals who are just getting started and for those who are wanting to introduce their partners. While the book isn’t a complete how-to guide, it’s a really great starting point that covers a lot of the more popular kinks out there.
You can purchase your very own copy of Kinky Sex: The Secret to Long-Term Desire on Amazon both in paperback and ebook form.
Product Information:
Tequila R’s Rating: 10/10 Paperback: 258 Pages Publisher: Love & Cherish, First Edition(December 17,2013) Language: English ISBN-10: 0977552411
