After "Red" : How to Manage the Aftermath When You've Used Your Safeword

You should never fear using your safeword. There are ways to deal with the guilt, disappointment, fear, sense of failure for using your safeword and the failing to use your safeword at all that many of us feel at one time or another.

If I feel Jealousy can I still be Poly?

Almost all of us have felt jealousy at one time or another. The best thing anyone has ever said to me in my understanding of jealousy was that “jealousy is just another emotion”. Why should we treat jealousy any different than any other negative emotion?

Some Thoughts on Domestic Service from a Male Submissive

When luna indicated that she was going to emphasize domestic service at the Sub Guide this month, it reminded me that when I tell people I am primarily a service submissive I am frequently asked: “What is that?”. The follow-up question is often, “What do you get out of that?” It seemed an opportune time to tackle these questions. (Sometimes the follow-up question is “What are you secondarily, then?” To which I always reply, “Whatever She needs me to be, of course.”)

So what is a service submissive? Simply put, it’s a sub (male or female) that takes care of household chores and similar tasks. Cooking, cleaning and other domestic duties might be performed by a service submissive. We essentially take the role of butler, maid, chauffeur, gardener or cook.

How to Use the "30 Days" Memes Effectively to Maximize Submissive Growth

What if I were to tell you that you could learn a lot more about yourself by asking one simple question after you answer these? Sure it means more work, but the thoughts and understanding that you could gain from playing a game or meme to the fullest could have some personal benefit. And who wouldn't want to expand and grow in submission?

Adding The Second Submissive - Branching Out Into Poly Relationships For The First Time

Adding another to a once closed relationship has been a learning experience and one that I'm sure I have more to explore and understand. For now I think we are on a path to even more happiness than I could have imagined.

Talking Shop - Tips for Purchasing BDSM Toys

How to choose what to buy and where to buy it from and what sort of factors that should be considered during the joys of adult toy shopping!

Submissive Mythology: The Good Submissive

All forms of submission are unique and personal expressions of your best self. You can take lessons and go through training to learn how to be a better you.

Recognizing Sub Rebound (Sub Drop)

Submissive Rebound is often called sub-drop. Here are some ways you can recognize it in you.