Grappling with Tradition and History to Define 24/7 Long Term D/s Relationships

Not so simply, it usually means the desire for lifetime commitment or a relationship with many or most of the same attributes that are familiar to all of us in its vanilla counterpart - the marriage.

Morning and Nighttime Briefing: Rituals for Coping with Uncertainty

Twice-a-day briefing rituals are an excellent way to usher more peace and connectedness into our lives during uncertainty periods. By using briefing lists, we can prioritize what's essential—despite the situational ambiguity many of us face in our daily lives.

Sluts: Debunking Another BDSM Myth

BDSM offers a key to unlock the slutty soul. Our sluts are people who mature to a level of sexual freedom with dignity and ethics. Sexual feelings find expression instead of suppression. The body, mind and soul find comfort in sexual intimacy that flows to and from their partners.To be called a slut is often compliment in the BDSM world.

Some Thoughts on Domestic Service from a Male Submissive

When luna indicated that she was going to emphasize domestic service at the Sub Guide this month, it reminded me that when I tell people I am primarily a service submissive I am frequently asked: “What is that?”. The follow-up question is often, “What do you get out of that?” It seemed an opportune time to tackle these questions. (Sometimes the follow-up question is “What are you secondarily, then?” To which I always reply, “Whatever She needs me to be, of course.”)

So what is a service submissive? Simply put, it’s a sub (male or female) that takes care of household chores and similar tasks. Cooking, cleaning and other domestic duties might be performed by a service submissive. We essentially take the role of butler, maid, chauffeur, gardener or cook.

Most Popular Posts on Submissive Guide 2014

Here are the top ten posts from 2014.

How to Keep a Cool Head When You Get Angry With Your Dominant

Yelling at them may seem like the thing to do, but with the right tools and a dash of inner strength, you can learn how to express yourself without blowing your top.

I'm Afraid of My Long Distance Dom

For fear of angering him I submit and abide by this punishment, leaving me more stressed I have fallen in love with my dom, I am not allowed to call him by name. I feel I m pushed up against a wall at all times. What should I do?

Submitting While One of You is Sick

One of the strangest full time submitting challenges that I’ve found is dealing with your role as a submissive when either you or your Dom is ill. So how do you cope when one of you is ill?