I've been receiving requests for advice and help on how to introduce BDSM to your partner, so I'm going to talk about the key points I think will help any partner open up about BDSM with their mate.
Watch The Video | Find SimilarIs the term a feminist submissive an oxymoron? The ability to choose one’s path is the ultimate goal of social feminism. A woman interested in the BDSM lifestyle has multiple choices open to her. She can submit to either a male or female Dom/me, she can choose to be a Domme herself, or she can follow the ultimate feminist choice – switch and be whatever she wishes whenever she wishes.
Read The Series | Find SimilarIf all we have for responsibility is to be obedient then we are getting the easy job. And that’s just not the way I see submission. There is no power exchange if you just have to obey commands.
Watch The Video | Find SimilarWhile I do plan to keep my copy of The Loving Dominant, I would have liked to have seen more attention paid to the “how” and “what” of expressing dominance in a loving way and avoiding that slippery slope into selfishness and abuse.
Read The Review | Find SimilarIt's funny to me to see people wanting a Dominant but then looking for "chemistry" as well. They want to fall in love with the Dominant of their dreams. Apparently, these submissives have come into the lifestyle thinking that a Dominant is BDSMs version of Prince Charming. Ladies, He simply doesn't exist either in the Vanilla world or in the lifestyle. Most Doms I know have regular lives to live and when their backside itches they scratch it. They fart when they eat beans and burp when they drink a beer. They wake up with bags under their eyes and a 5 o'clock shadow just exactly like their vanilla counterparts. But here we are hoping like crazy that he will forever and ever look like a hottie in leathers while always having a desire to flog our submissive little behinds.
Read The Article | Find SimilarUntil I discovered my submissive self, I always found myself deferring to others as much as possible to avoid conflict. Suddenly I started standing taller, with my shoulders back and my head up.
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Read The Article | Find SimilarWhen we find ourselves holding back, we need to take a lesson from jenn and uncollar ourselves from whatever is going on and put our focus on what matters the most.
Read The Article | Find SimilarBeing in a power exchange relationship at the time was more of a want and desire than a need. The more experience I gained, the more it became a need.
Read The Article | Find SimilarA sample D/s contract that also includes a non-monogamy section. Feel free to copy, edit and use this one for creating your own relationship contact.
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