Positional service is probably the most prevalent in non-D/s settings. This is essentially customer service; you are in a position to serve and so you serve. The service is defined by a set of itemized expectations.
Read The Article | Find SimilarThere are several other names that can be 'classed' for the submissive role in a relationship. The ones I'm covering here are the basics. I am well aware of toys, pets, sluts, servants and many many other names. Please do not feel that I am not leaving you out, but for the sake of clarity and simplicity, I am covering only Bottom, Masochist, Submissive and Slave.
Read The Article | Find SimilarHow your defining moment occurs has an impact on how your future will develop as a submissive. However, you decide to handle the moment will decide your future.
Read The Article | Find SimilarDoes being a submissive inherently mean you are feminine? This, of course, could work in a male Dominant/female submissive dynamic, but then again not always the case. What about relationships where the female is the Dominant? Do they suddenly become masculine?
Read The Article | Find SimilarJust because your kinks are things I'm not remotely interested in doesn't mean we can't stand on common ground. It's okay to be different and yet be friends. People do it all the time.
Read The Article | Find SimilarAftercare is an elusive beast. Sometimes I need it and sometimes I'd rather be left alone. I'm never very sure which mood I'll be in when we begin playing but aftercare is always on standby because I take what happens in scene very hard. It goes with my very emotional self.
Read The Article | Find SimilarSure it may turn you on, but you still get to decide how far you go to care for that. After all, BDSM is about exchanging sensations and exploring your body's responses to stimulus. It is not always sex.
Read The Article | Find SimilarA lot can change in five years.
Read The Article | Find SimilarHave you found your submission has changed with different partners/relationships?
Read The Article | Find SimilarI haven't been able to sit for the last four days... I like pain, but caning isn't what I thought, is there anything I can do beforehand to make it a better experience?
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