Full Question: Is it okay to fall in love with the dom I am with? And how can I communicate this with my dom? Answer: It is entirely normal for submissives to develop feelings for their Dominants. BDSM relationships can often involve intense emotional connections and trust, leading to romantic feelings. Most relationships are formed […]
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Full Question: How to get back on track after a sub drop? Answer: Drop is rough on a lot of people. Let me help you with tips and strategies to recover from the experience of sub drop, a feeling of emotional and physical exhaustion that can occur after intense submission. Sub drop is a normal
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Full Question: Trying to find my first munch meeting in the NY area. How can I know if it’s safe, and where can I find one? Answer: Finding a munch is a recommended first step for anyone interested in meeting people face-to-face and getting to know the larger community. Due to the Pandemic, finding munches
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Full Question: What is a Day Collar? Do you have one? Could you share a picture? Answer: When people talk about Day Collars, they mean a collar that doesn’t look like an obvious leather BDSM collar. Generally, it is discreet in appearance, often passing for conventional jewelry. Some professions have wardrobe or safety rules regarding
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Full Question: What are some ways to satisfy your need to submit if you aren’t with a Dominant? Answer: It takes some thought, that’s for sure. I suggest you start with a personal protocol. A personal protocol is a set of rules with a punishment/reward system that any submissive can use to help improve themselves
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Full Question: Do dominants normally celebrate their sub’s birthday? Answer: Whenever I get asked about what is normal, I’m reminded of a quote from Tori Spelling, “Everybody knows there’s no such thing as normal. There is no black-and-white definition of normal. Normal is subjective.” So, do Dominants celebrate their sub’s birthday? Yes. Or no. It
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Full Question: How do you know when it’s time to move on from a relationship? Answer: If you’re asking this question, it’s likely time. No one happy in their relationship asks them if they should leave the relationship. We pour a lot into our relationships. Here are four signs that it may be time to
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Full Question: Master and I both work outside the home. How does one keep the mindset of a slave while working and keep communication open? Answer: You may not like this answer, but you can’t keep it continuously. Have you ever seen a cartoon where a person is trying to balance a bunch of different
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Full Question: Advice for therapists who work with BDSM clients? Answer: I’d be happy to provide my thoughts on improving therapy for BDSM persons seeking therapy. First, it’s always hard for us to open up about these things, and we’ve been told to keep it a secret for a long time. We may need a
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Full Question: How does one discern if a Dom is abusive? Answer: Dominants and submissives can be abusive to their partners. We’re going to focus on Dominants for this question, but if you are Dominant or in an egalitarian relationship, the following questions can help you discern abuse also. The core of BDSM is consent,
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Full Question: What can I do when I feel depressed and have the urge to withdraw from my dominant or pretend that I’m okay? Answer: Depression is difficult to go through, and I’m sorry you’re dealing with it. I applaud your efforts to find ways to battle some of the symptoms. I hope that I
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Full Question: Hello, I’m just confused that my girlfriend is not so into BDSM things. How can I help her get interested? Answer: This is a common situation that does not have an easy answer. It is important because it is not sufficient for many of us to bury our desires and needs for BDSM.
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Full Question: I have started to converse with a D that interests me. Now before I get swept up in the feels of being a sub, I want to make sure I am checking the right boxes. What am I looking for in terms of time to build the d/s relationship? Obviously, this will
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Full Question: I did something, and my Master was angry. Yes, I have apologized to Him, and He has already punished me for it, but I still feel that He is upset with me. He avoids having full conversations with me, and whenever I ask Him if He is still mad, He says He is
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Full Question: I’m a submissive who’s dominant and won’t tie me up. He never wants to have sex with me. I love him, but I’m so unhappy When it comes to our sex life. He isn’t attracted to me. I lived with him for 3 months & he tied me up once & barely did
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Full Question: It’s hard for me to let go and orgasm when I’m with him because he makes me nervous. But he makes me nervous in a good way! Do you have any advice for this? Answer: Feeling overwhelmingly nervous during sex will impact your ability to relax and let go. A million different factors
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Full Question: Luna…I am so very confused. I know I am submissive, but lately, I have been questioning if I am a sub or a baby girl. I don’t know exactly how to differentiate between the two, as the lines are kind of blurry for Daddy Doms. Help? Answer: Labels are confusing. They often have
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Full Question: I recently met a Dominant who is amazing and “seems” to be exactly what I have been looking for, but I’m afraid that he is too good to be true. When looking for a new Dominant, how do I know that he could be my next Master? Answer: Relationships are hard work. Once
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Full Question: My question revolves around the idea of being a new sub and wanting desperately to act it out with almost anyone who will play the Domme. It’s a kind of frenzy. But as you grow into the role, how do you set sensible boundaries and have a code of honor and values so
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Full Question: How do I speak to my master about formal etiquette training? I am a collared slave, and I would like there to be a high protocol for days we plan intense scenes.. just so that I can get in the right head space. I don’t want to be pushy, but I crave that
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