Full Question: When talking to a new potential Dom, I find he will write sporadically. There are often days or over a week until he responds to my messages. How much should I expect when getting to know someone? I like to really get to know someone before I commit/ play, and I find that hard if the communication is unreliable.
Answer:
I can understand that trying to get to know someone when they don’t have the same communication expectations as you do could be a challenge! But, this is the perfect time to do some negotiation.
When you first start talking to someone, ask them about how much communication they want to have and how quickly they’ll respond to you! Make it clear what you expect as far as communication is concerned, especially if you will only be talking to each other through digital communication.
So, if you’re wondering now, the next conversation you have with them is to ask them to clarify how much communication to expect from them, what you want as far as communication, and see where you can come to agreements.
It’s perfectly understandable that you need to be able to get to know someone well before you move to the next stage of a relationship. Knowing how serious you are and how quickly you’ll get responses to messages, etc, is something you need to lay down from the very beginning.
And if they start falling behind on their promised level of communication, you can call them out on it, or you may find that they are not as serious about keeping in touch as you’d prefer, and you can part ways before you have invested too much time.
