My Master is quite attentive. However, being used to emotionally based relationships, I feel like I require more emotionally than perhaps He gives. He wants to know when I've had a bad day or am disappointed or overwhelmed in anything. But when I express this to him, he seems to

clam up. I've tried to speak with Him about this and He acknowledges the problem but I'm not sure He really knows how to be there for me emotionally. What should I do or say?

Dear Anonymous,

Have you asked him if He is able to have the kind of emotional relationship that you feel you need? This may be a situation where He doesn’t know how to react as He may not be that, meaning emotional, type of person.

For example, my girl is very emotional but to her and her children’s detriment so I do not encourage the behavior of becoming overly emotional. I work with the base of the problem if there is one. Sometimes I just don’t know how to react to her outburst of emotions which is really uncomfortable which sounds like what your Dominant is doing. Clamming up as a sign that He is uncomfortable and doesn’t know what to do but be there for you.

It may also come down to not being compatible emotionally with that person. Master’s are viewed as being much more strict and not so touchy feely. Perhaps what you need is more of a Daddy type of Dominant. My grandmother used to tell me, “You can’t force a bee to become a butterfly.”

Even though this is a D/s or M/s relationship, you do have the power to either accept it or ask for release. You just have to figure out what is worth more to you, Him, or your emotional needs. That’s tough, and I wish you good luck.

SehAnru