Whether you’re in a 24/7 D/s relationship or just exploring, this category delves into roles, power exchanges, and the emotional intricacies that make these connections unique.
This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. The Training Collar represents the second collar exchanged between a Dominant and a submissive. For information regarding the first collar please refer to my article called the Collar of Consideration. The ‘Training’ collar […]
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A few months ago, there was a thread started on Fetlife about ethical BDSM and it really caught my attention so I had to check it out. At this time there were only a handful of comments and every one of these comments had said something pertaining to the dominant being responsible for the relationship
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Online submission was and still is a very popular choice for many people, especially the novice submissive and the curious outsider. But it also attracts the not so honest people, the predators and those looking for the weak and vulnerable for their own selfish needs. And that’s why, if you wish to be an online
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Thank you Mrs. Darling for answering this reader’s question! Dear Submissive Guide, I’m hoping you can offer some advice to a newbie. I’ve met a Dom online, we had a first date (just lunch) and will be meeting again shortly to negotiate a contract. I have never ever done this before. I’m overweight and over
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This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. Perhaps one of the most challenging decisions we face as a parent is what we should tell our children, when and how much. By choosing to live within the D/s or BDSM lifestyle
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Dear lunaKM, I’m starting to enter a long distance d/s relationship as a sub. You have a lot of excellent articles about self aftercare for subs in ldrs (long distance relationships), which I’ve made good use of, but I’m wondering if you have any advice for how to look after your dom long distance? Sincerely, Long
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Hello lunaKM , I have recently met a very dominant man. I have always been a bit submissive and love the idea of worshipping a man fully. The first night we were together I got pregnant I am keeping the baby and he is thrilled. But he tells me I need to research in order
Scared of My Dom – Are Dominants Supposed to Act This Way? Read More »
Thank you Kayla Lords for answering this question! I am not sure if this topic has been covered before, but I couldn’t find much info on it. I was hoping you could share some advice on balancing a d/s relationship and family.To be more specific, I’d like to know how to handle instances such as
Balancing D/s: Needing Permission to Go Out With Family Read More »
As the holiday is upon us once more, I wanted to share some common feels with others who struggle with recovery. Recovery from anything: drink, drugs, eating disorders, self-harm, etc. If you are or are with somebody who considers themselves “in recovery,” this is for you. Now I only have the perspective of (using Male/female D/s
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Valentine’s Day is just around the corner. I know it’s still the beginning of January, but we all know how fast time flies and before we know it, February will be here and that’s when the clock really starts ticking. So, it’s never too early to plan ahead (says the girl who was finished with
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Often enough, rituals are reserved for “serious” M/s relationships and D/s that has gone 24/7. At least that’s what I pick up from the multitude of threads I read online and the people I talk to in groups. If you’ve read anything on this site before you’ll probably know my stand on that. It’s completely
5 Ways Rituals Enhance Your Relationship with Yourself and Your Dynamic Read More »
Hello, my partner is submissive, and I am vanilla. We have be together for close to 2 years, but have known each other for much longer. Our relationship has been rocky for some time now, and I have recently agreed to letting my partner fulfill her needs. Although we have agreed to work fiercely on
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Every once and awhile, I get a message from a friend on Facebook or a reader asking me about polyamory resources since they know I’m in a polyamorous relationship. My usual response is give me a few days and I’ll get back to them after I go through my bookmarks so, I thought it would
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This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. Relationships end. Sometimes through the willful choice of both partners, other times one may ask for or be released. In either case the ending of a relationship is painful. In my opinion many
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This is written as a bode of encouragement to those who are struggling in moving from a monogamous relationship to a non-monogamous one. This is not my saying non-monogamy is the only way, or should be your way. This is not in any way to be read as implying negativity towards monogamy. This is also
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No matter what we want to believe or how we choose to behave, relationships are the same, whether you’re kinky or vanilla. People are still people with all of the same hopes, dreams, flaws, and beauty; kink is irrelevant. For those of you, like me, in long-term D/s relationships, or for those searching for your
Death, Grief, and D/s: How to Help Your Dominant During a Time of Sadness Read More »
Finding a partner is hard. We all know that dating is difficult in the best of times and adding in D/s or BDSM needs or desires just makes it harder still. But there are people out there and they are looking for you! Hopefully, I’ve put together all the articles from the site and elsewhere
Where All The Dominants Are and How to Find Them Read More »
I’ve met a man on- line who says I’m a sub and wants me to be a sub. He sends me info to read, but everyone has a different point of view. I have a job I enjoy and my kids are grown. I don’t mind being controlled in the bedroom…..I like making my own
Online Submissive Without Any Direction Read More »
I have a dear friend in my local lifestyle. She’s the owner of a private BDSM dungeon. She’s a master (she doesn’t like the term ‘mistress’) with a devoted slave. She trains and mentors submissives. She bottoms with people she trusts. She’s also a professional FemDom with clients who meet with her on a weekly
You Can’t Be Little All the Time: Learning Appropriate Public Behavior as a Little Read More »
A common topic of conversation among my friends is that after several years with their partners, their sex life becomes stale. The pizzazz and excitement of sex dissipates over time as you exhaust many of the sexual options that you have and learn how to work your partner’s body. Sex becomes mundane and more of
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