Whether you’re in a 24/7 D/s relationship or just exploring, this category delves into roles, power exchanges, and the emotional intricacies that make these connections unique.
Being temporarily separated from your Dominant can make it harder to feel connected to your submission. One submissive shares how returning to a simple daily check-in helped restore that connection while away for work. Small rituals and intentional communication can provide meaningful reminders of your dynamic when you can’t be together.
Putting First Things First: Staying Connected When Apart Read More »
Limited privacy doesn’t necessarily mean discipline has to disappear from a D/s relationship. This article offers discreet BDSM punishment ideas for people living with roommates or others nearby, including loss of privileges, writing assignments, timeouts, lectures, and quieter physical options that can preserve privacy while keeping punishment distinct from play.
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A Dominant’s collar symbolizes deep commitment in a D/s relationship. Explore what a collar means, how to prepare for it, and if you’re ready to accept this powerful symbol.
Expectations of a Collar: How Ready Are You to Accept One? Read More »
A D/s breakup can feel especially disorienting when the relationship shaped your routines, identity, and submission. This Ask SubGuide response offers practical advice for grieving the loss, talking with supportive people, rebuilding independence, and remembering that the end of one relationship does not mean the end of your future or submissive journey.
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Meeting potential Dominants online can be exciting, but safety and good judgment matter. This article covers protecting personal information, creating a useful dating profile, screening first messages, avoiding people who push sexual conversation too quickly, and taking time to learn about compatibility before moving deeper into kink or relationship discussions.
How Can I Safely Contact Online Doms? Read More »
Are D/s relationships really deeper or more successful than vanilla ones? This article challenges that assumption by comparing trust, intimacy, and communication across relationship styles. The takeaway is simple: power exchange doesn’t guarantee a better relationship. Strong relationships depend on the people involved, their compatibility, and the effort they make.
Are D/s Relationships Better than Vanilla Ones? Read More »
Jealousy can surface even in loving, established polyamorous D/s relationships. One submissive shares how insecurity, loneliness, and fear of being loved less can appear when a Dominant divides time among multiple partners. She offers practical ways to manage those feelings through communication, reassurance, distraction, and recognizing personal jealousy triggers.
Taming the Green-Eyed Monster – Managing Jealousy in a Poly Family Read More »
The other day I got an email from a reader who had a question about being in a long-distance relationship with his little and wanting to know some ideas on how to make that work. Like usual when I get a question from a reader, I got super excited(because I do love hearing from you
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I have been in a D/s relationship for eight months, but he has a problem with moving forward, asking three things of me. Kneeling when he comes in, being naked, and calling him Sir. Calling him Sir, I have a hard time doing all the time. I feel that I want to know how he
Calling Him Sir Should Mean Something, Right? Read More »
During Mischief in May, a local BDSM conference, I got the chance to sit down with Dan and dawn Williams, authors of Living M/s: A Book for Masters, Slaves and Their Relationships and hosts of Erotic Awakening Podcast (among many other wonderful things). Today that podcast went live! We talk about Submissive Guide, how it got started, what my focus
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I think the most frequent question on every novices lip is, “where do I go to find people, partners, and relationships now that I’ve found kink and D/s?” It’s a huge hurdle to get over and something that everyone seeks. A partner. A lover. A relationship. It’s not as easy as going down to your
Where To Go to Find a Kinky or D/s Partner: The Big List Read More »
If you’ve wondered whether you can enjoy kinky playtime with your Dominant in a long-distance relationship (LDR), wonder no more! I am here to tell you that it’s entirely possible—and very enjoyable. While we were separated by a few thousand miles, I was very fortunate that my Dom was only one timezone ahead of me,
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This is a guest post by Nicolette Hart. I am a very independent, strong woman. I have never liked asking for help from others or for money from anyone. I have always been able to figure things out on my own. But when he came along all charming mysterious, he was different from any man I
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I am 28-year-old gay male and have been following your website for some time now, THANK YOU. I have always been attracted to dominant men and I am now married to one. My question is how to take our relationship to a formal 24/7 D/s place. Some of the challenges are the following: I am
Can We Move to 24/7 D/s Even If We Have Issues? Read More »
Continuing from my previous article on preparing for your Dominant’s absence, today I want to talk about things you can do to help feel connected when you are not able to be together. In the last article, you learned a few good coping mechanisms for times when you feel alone. Working on hobbies, hanging out with
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In the post Single in the Scene Part IV: Petitioning, I address the matter of presenting a petition to a potential Master. However, I didn’t fully address that space between the time of presenting the petition and (hopefully) the collar, at least not at length. But, this can be one of the most trying times for
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This is a guest post by kaya of Underhishand.com. Sometimes I get punished for not following a rule, doing something I know I’m not supposed to or vice versa. Those punishments seem perfunctory. It’s an integral part of our lifestyle, this discipline, and punishment. Maybe just to keep the roles we each live clearly defined.
The Punishment Place: Dealing with Punishment as a Slave Read More »
Whether it be for a job or a family crisis, military service or a holiday there might be a time in your submission where your partner must be away from you for a time and might not be able to communicate as often as you’d like. How do you prepare for the loneliness, loss, and
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It’s common for relationships that are D/s in nature to start out in the bedroom and then slowly move to fill part or all of your life. But the daunting task of adjusting to that transition is enough to scare people away from ever doing it or from maintaining it for very long. Not only
Transitioning from Part Time to Full Time D/s: How to Work Through the Challenges Read More »
In the immortal words of Whitesnake: “And I know what it means/To walk along the lonely street of dreams/And here I go again on my own.” I’ve been released from my Dominant. This was my first D/s relationship, so I don’t have any experience to compare this to. It’s not like a Vanilla break-up. No, not
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