Whether you’re in a 24/7 D/s relationship or just exploring, this category delves into roles, power exchanges, and the emotional intricacies that make these connections unique.
Many submissives worry that their sexual needs should come second in a D/s relationship. This article explores why fulfillment, communication, and mutual care are essential parts of healthy power exchange, helping readers understand that submission does not mean ignoring desire, boundaries, or emotional well-being.
Feeling Unfulfilled: Do My Sexual Needs Not Matter in a D/s Relationship? Read More »
This guest article by Mistress Steel explores 24/7 D/s relationships through the lens of tradition, history, trust, and long-term commitment. Though some ideas may feel dated, it offers a valuable snapshot of earlier BDSM thought and invites readers to reflect on how knowledge and expectations have evolved.
Grappling with Tradition and History to Define 24/7 Long Term D/s Relationships Read More »
Online BDSM relationships can be deeply meaningful, but they also come with unique challenges. This article explores the realities of building trust, intimacy, and communication through online and long-distance connections, helping readers develop realistic expectations while nurturing relationships that begin or exist primarily in digital spaces.
Cyber Realities: Online and Long Distance Relationship Thoughts Read More »
Sharing a Dominant can create unique relationships between submissives. This article explores the concept of subbie siblings, discussing communication, respect, boundaries, and common challenges while helping readers understand how these relationships can support a healthy, cooperative D/s dynamic built on trust rather than competition.
Q&A: Subbie Siblings Read More »
Protocol doesn’t appear overnight—it develops through communication, trust, and shared experience. This article explores how protocol naturally evolves in D/s relationships, helping readers understand how expectations, rituals, and structure can grow over time to strengthen connection, reinforce power exchange, and support both partners’ unique dynamic.
How Protocol Develops in D/s Relationships Read More »
Finding love in the BDSM community takes patience, honesty, and realistic expectations. This article explores how to approach dating with authenticity, recognize genuine compatibility, and build relationships based on trust, communication, and shared values rather than rushing into power exchange or settling for unhealthy dynamics.
Finding Love in the D/s Lifestyle Read More »
Confidence and authority alone do not make someone a good Dominant. This article explores the differences between ethical dominance and controlling behavior, helping readers recognize healthy leadership, understand the role of consent, and evaluate whether a D/s relationship is built on trust, respect, and mutual agreement.
How to Tell If You Are With a Dominant or Just a Bossy Dick Read More »
Master/slave relationships can look very different from one dynamic to another. This reflective article explores the diversity of M/s relationships, encouraging readers to move beyond black-and-white thinking and recognize that healthy power exchange is shaped by consent, communication, shared values, and the needs of those involved.
Master/slave Relationships in Black and White Read More »
Being monogamous in a polyamorous relationship brings unique joys and challenges. Through personal reflection, this article explores navigating different relationship orientations with honesty, communication, and mutual respect, offering insight for readers balancing their own needs while supporting a partner whose relationship style differs from their own.
How I Identify as Monogamous in a Poly Dynamic Read More »
Love in a BDSM relationship can appear through service, affection, play, aftercare, shared routines, and quiet acts of consideration. This reflective article explores the many ways kinky partners express love and build lasting connection, reminding readers that power exchange and romance can exist beautifully together.
Is There Love in BDSM Relationships? Read More »
When BDSM is an essential part of who you are, dating requires more than physical attraction. This article explores compatibility, honesty, and realistic expectations, encouraging readers to seek partners who genuinely share their relationship goals and values rather than hoping someone will eventually embrace a lifestyle they never wanted.
Finding Your Dominant: Dating when BDSM is Something You Need Read More »
Before entering a D/s relationship, it helps to understand what you actually want from one. This article guides new submissives through defining submission and dominance, identifying relationship preferences, exploring interests and limits, and considering how they learn best so they can communicate realistic expectations to a potential partner.
Figure Out What to Expect From a Relationship Before Entering a Relationship Read More »
When your long-distance Dominant is finally coming to visit, excitement can quickly turn into a frantic to-do list. This personal preparation guide covers travel plans, cleaning, laundry, food, toys, personal care, and mental preparation so you can get ready without exhausting yourself before your time together even begins.
How I Prepare for My Dominant’s Visit Read More »
A few months ago, I came across writing on Kinky and Popular called “An Uncollaring Ceremony”. The title caught my eye so I clicked, and I am so happy I did because this writing resonated something inside of me and caused me to think of my submission. It made me think about walls that we,
Stop Serving Yourself: An Inspirational Un-Collaring Ceremony Read More »
When I was a novice (way back when) I heard about training a lot from the online conversations I held and the forum threads I participated in. In all the discussions I read, there was only one thing that was a common thread and that is that everyone had different interpretations of what training was,
What a Dom Means When They Say, “You Need Training” Read More »
When I was a novice submissive I was single and searching for a Dominant to be my playmate, my partner, and my lover. I explored all the places online that existed at the time, many that do not exist now or have been replaced by better sites. I was, in a word, desperate, to experience BDSM
How Far Should You Go On a First Date? Read More »
The other night after dinner, I curled up on the couch watching My Little Pony: Friendship is Magic (yes, again. There’s a lot of My Little Pony in this household thanks to yours truly), and the particular episode I was watching really hit home for me. In this episode, Mr. Carrot Cake and his wife,
Little Does Not Equal Irresponsible Read More »
Sub drop is the feeling of hopelessness and depression that can follow the extreme rush of endorphins during intense play or sex if the sub is not cared for appropriately afterward. Care varies from person to person – some of us need to be held and cuddled and praised and iced or hot packed accordingly,
Sub Drop From Afar: Managing Sub Drop in a Long Distance Relationship Read More »
A couple weeks ago I held a Roundtable discussion on Polyamory. You had a lot to say about it. I also had a guest post on polyamory, written by May. Coming up this week is a second guest post about having two Dominats in a poly relationship by Aria. Keep an eye out for that one!
Readers’ View on Polyamory Read More »
Awhile ago, I was talking to a friend of mine and asked her if she had any good topic ideas because it’s good to have outside influences and she suggested micromanaging vs proactivity. I got super excited because it’s an awesome topic. I figured it would be a rather easy topic to write about, but
Micromanagement and Macromanagement: What’s the Difference? Read More »
