Whether you’re in a 24/7 D/s relationship or just exploring, this category delves into roles, power exchanges, and the emotional intricacies that make these connections unique.
I don’t know about you, but when I was a child, I didn’t always think it was all that easy. I remember grownups all around me telling me how “easy I had it” and to “just wait until I became an adult” because that’s when life would start getting hard. I would always look at […]
Daddy-Little Girl Dynamics: It’s Not Easy Being A Little Read More »
To look at perhaps a more advanced topic that also does not get a lot of play when we are speaking about those of us in 24/7 service arrangements with children present; this month we are going to talk about Homes with multiple s-types and D-types. By far and away not a common arrangement, there
After writing “ Rules for the Working Sub” my Dom suggested that I continue writing articles that focus on the long distance aspects of our relationship. At her encouragement, I’ve decided to try my hand at a series which I hope will be of help to anyone who is involved or is thinking of becoming involved,
Submitting in a Long Distance Relationship: Introduction Read More »
I was on Tumblr one morning and I came across a picture of Johnny Depp and something he had said. Now, I had seen this particular picture several times and thought nothing of it in the past, but this last time I stumbled across it, I got thinking. The more I thought about this quote,
Having Enough Love for More than Just One Partner Read More »
Just how does one know how to move on after a relationship has come to an end, regardless of the reasons behind it? That is sometimes a confusing question for submissives to answer for themselves. Often a submissive will feel lost and all alone, as if they feel that no one will understand what they
How to Move On When The D/s Relationship Ends Read More »
Balancing professional life with submissive desires can be challenging. Discover practical rules and tips for working submissives to explore D/s dynamics while thriving in their careers.
Work, Submission, and Me: The Rules That Keep It All Together Read More »
It’s no secret that having a working long distance relationship is a challenge, even under the most traditional circumstances, but when the dynamics of your relationship are dependent upon the delicate balance of give and take between Dominant and submissive, the potential challenges that you face increase tenfold. When you are unable to spend your
The Role of a Collar in a Long Distance D/s Relationship Read More »
I am a product of the 80’s, which I think is the greatest decade, ever. I may be a bit partial with my thinking. The music, television, and especially the movies is what makes the 80’s such a memorable decade. One of my favorite movies from that era is “ The Princess Bride”. To me, that’s
The Ring and the Collar: A Personal Opinion on the Symbolism of a Collar Read More »
When fantasies abound about slavery they often go something like this: The slave is always nude, chained or caged waiting for the Master to decide what to do with them. They make no decisions themselves, the Master declares that he will tell them when to eat, sleep and piss. The slave has no mind of
Why Would Any Submissive Want to be Micromanaged? Read More »
When we talk about collars in BDSM, we often mean the symbol of a relationship commitment between two people. When a collar comes into view, some people want to commemorate that with a ceremony. Let’s talk a bit about collars, their symbolism in D/s and M/s relationships, and how you can build a formal ceremony
Crafting Your Collaring Ceremony: Themes, Rituals, and Celebrations Read More »
When you are looking for a Dominant for the first, or last, time, you have a few reasons to wonder if the person you see is compatible with you. After all, you don’t want to spend a lot of time getting to know someone if they are not going to be your perfect, or almost
7 Signs You are Compatible With a Prospective Dominant Read More »
Since I have had a few articles published and have received such a warm and kind welcome from everyone, I have decided to tell you all a little secret that I’ve been hiding for some time now. The relationship that I have with my Master is more than just a Master/slave relationship. We also have
Daddy’s Little Girl – Exploring the Ageplay Dynamic Read More »
I talk a lot about knowing your limits and talking about your limits with your Dominant but I believe this is the first time I’m going to talk about your partner’s limits and what they mean for you. As a refresher, limits are the personal boundaries that we place on ourselves pertaining to our life
The Real Truth About a Dominant’s Limits Read More »
As the first in a series of articles focusing on male submission, this article presents thoughts about one of the archetypes of male submission, the “worm.” Men and women are different, of course, and in some cases that goes beyond the obvious physical characteristics. Almost all of the articles on The Submissive Guide are valid
Male Submission – The Worm Read More »
Working outside the home is a requirement for most submissives in D/s relationships. Not everyone gets to be a stay at home submissive. We have family and kids, mortgages and debt to pay. Working is a part of living. But work does not have to be our life. It’s a struggle to change your power
5 Ways to Stop Thinking of Work When You Come Home to Your Dominant Read More »
Disclaimer: I do not have children nor are they in my future. The post below discusses the issue of deciding to have children for a variety of reasons besides a natural progression of wanting them, having a partner that wants them and then working towards that end. When KnyghtMare and I got married one of
To Have Children Or Not, Now THAT is a Question Read More »
Trust is a big factor in all relationships. I would even go as far to say that trust is an even bigger factor in D/s and M/s relationships than most others, but I could be wrong. How do you know when you really trust someone? I know a lot of people out there say they
Just How Much Trust Do YOU Have? Read More »
What’s the difference between a protocol and a ritual? Even experienced people in the lifestyle can get tripped up on this one, but there are a few basic differences that will allow you to rapidly tell the two apart. A ritual: Some examples of common rituals are greeting rituals where the submissive meets the dominant
Telling the Difference Between a Ritual and a Protocol Read More »
Of all the subjects to write about on submission, this seems the most vanilla to me, probably because it didn’t use to be unusual for one partner in a partnership to maintain the bank accounts all that long ago. For some vanilla couples, it still isn’t. Personally, I am not a very organized person and
Letting Go of the Bank Account – Submitting to Financial Control Read More »
When it comes to the idea of topping from the bottom, which I’ve covered several times on the site already, the most common idea that gets bantered about is if asking and requesting something is topping from the bottom. Oftentimes, with novice submissives, it is assumed that showing any sort of desire for something that
Newsflash: Feeding His Dominance Is Not Topping From Below Read More »
